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Although I get what Sluggers is saying... to me, there's a fine line here. Most of the micro-managing I've heard over the years is perpetuated BS. In fact, I find that the more educated a bucket-dad/mom (can't forget them!) becomes... the less they flap their mouth. Are there people that cross the line? Absolutely. This said, telling them to shaddup and "let her be", accomplishes what? Disconnection? IMO, that's the real issue... and not just in pitching, but in life, in general.
The parents I work with in clinic and online ALL support their kids, marvelously. They use me for "directions"... and WE (their daughter and me) depend on them to "get them there". Just like they have expectations of me... I have even higher expectations of them. I want them involved... or I won't be. In fact, I actually prefer parents that are a bit over-zealous... because I know they want to learn, and they do. I know they won't use the tv as a babysitter... or count on their DD to learn their craft via Instagram... only to sit on the sidelines and bark idiocies during games.
Most so-so to crappy coaches lack the motivation to educate themselves. IMO, it's because we are so disconnected as a society... and during their obligation of games and practices, their frustration builds in an attempt to validate their time and mask their deficiencies. In comparison... good coaches study the game (like a good bucket-dad/mom). They understand the articulations that lead to sound bio-mechanics... and when they get frustrated... it's because their expectations of their players are high... yet they recognize a lack focus/understanding/fundamentals in their students... which can be frustrating. To me, those two situatioms are completely different.
As a coach, I feel it's my job to manage every aspect of the game. I do heavily rely on my assistants... they are incredible... but you better believe my nose is in their business. Every aspect of the game is micro-managed. Attention to detail is everything. Some first-time players get a little shell-shocked... only to discover a deeper passion for the game and their craft as the season progresses. The laissez faire type players usually don't make the roster.. and the micro-managed ones often do... only to discover a deeper respect for their one-time viewed overbearing parent(s). The parents are free to watch practices... and I find the quality of their knowledge improves, thus improving their relationship with their DD.
Again, there are always exceptions. But... I'd rather those exceptions sort themselves out naturally... as opposed to "letting go". Although they won't admit it... our kids look to us for guidance, leadership, and direction. Are you there for them? Are you prepared to give them the right guidance? How well-managed are you? Their are lots of micro pieces that constitute your responsibility as a parent, and it's your job to look outside your 'other' obligations and manage them. As a parent, you're a filter. Soak in all the details... even the crazy ones. Micro-manage this absurd level of detail/information... so that what you say has meaning... and your kid isn't left to figure it out for themselves, alone. You might make a bunch of mistakes... or feel like you wasted X amount of time... but at least you did it TOGETHER.
Just a different perspective, and I respect all of yours.
The parents I work with in clinic and online ALL support their kids, marvelously. They use me for "directions"... and WE (their daughter and me) depend on them to "get them there". Just like they have expectations of me... I have even higher expectations of them. I want them involved... or I won't be. In fact, I actually prefer parents that are a bit over-zealous... because I know they want to learn, and they do. I know they won't use the tv as a babysitter... or count on their DD to learn their craft via Instagram... only to sit on the sidelines and bark idiocies during games.
Most so-so to crappy coaches lack the motivation to educate themselves. IMO, it's because we are so disconnected as a society... and during their obligation of games and practices, their frustration builds in an attempt to validate their time and mask their deficiencies. In comparison... good coaches study the game (like a good bucket-dad/mom). They understand the articulations that lead to sound bio-mechanics... and when they get frustrated... it's because their expectations of their players are high... yet they recognize a lack focus/understanding/fundamentals in their students... which can be frustrating. To me, those two situatioms are completely different.
As a coach, I feel it's my job to manage every aspect of the game. I do heavily rely on my assistants... they are incredible... but you better believe my nose is in their business. Every aspect of the game is micro-managed. Attention to detail is everything. Some first-time players get a little shell-shocked... only to discover a deeper passion for the game and their craft as the season progresses. The laissez faire type players usually don't make the roster.. and the micro-managed ones often do... only to discover a deeper respect for their one-time viewed overbearing parent(s). The parents are free to watch practices... and I find the quality of their knowledge improves, thus improving their relationship with their DD.
Again, there are always exceptions. But... I'd rather those exceptions sort themselves out naturally... as opposed to "letting go". Although they won't admit it... our kids look to us for guidance, leadership, and direction. Are you there for them? Are you prepared to give them the right guidance? How well-managed are you? Their are lots of micro pieces that constitute your responsibility as a parent, and it's your job to look outside your 'other' obligations and manage them. As a parent, you're a filter. Soak in all the details... even the crazy ones. Micro-manage this absurd level of detail/information... so that what you say has meaning... and your kid isn't left to figure it out for themselves, alone. You might make a bunch of mistakes... or feel like you wasted X amount of time... but at least you did it TOGETHER.
Just a different perspective, and I respect all of yours.
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