I came to this same conclusion. OBA is always important, but it's more important at younger ages. As they get older, slugging average is more and more important because good defenses limit the bases you get on base-running alone. So a double is much bigger than it used to be. As far as player development, those put-it-in-play girls can be left behind if they don't eventually learn to put the ball in the grass.
I can't find the reference right now, but when determining OPS, OBP should be weighted at 1.8x more than SLG. I found that to be interesting when I read it, but when you think about run expectancy and such, it makes sense.