redhotcoach
Out on good behavior
- May 8, 2009
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No problem, I realize you are very busy this time of year.
If I may, and on this subject, I just talked to another player with a lot of ability that is feeling the pressure. This young lady is not from my school and so, she kind of opened up. She said that she knows she doesn't have any pressure from her parents BUT she feels like it because they have invested so much money in TB. In a way, she wants to quit. Yet, she still loves playing. After a few minutes, I told her that she was so confused. My advice was clear out the static. All of those things she thinks she knows and the concentrate on what she knows. First, she loves playing. Second, she knows her parents will support her no matter what. Next, she doesn't care what level she plays in college and now admitted to herself that her parents don't care as well. I think that was the breakthrough. She has a school that she really likes but it isn't what she thought her parents wanted and she didn't think she measured up. Once she allowed herself to think it through, and believe me, I did very little but listen, she "fixed herself." With NLI signings this coming week, she is no longer worried about her decision. Good for her. I hope this helps someone.
Girls are so up and down! As I often quote, girls have to feel good to play good. Dd went from 19 home runs and no strike outs spring and summer to some singles and several strike outs in the fall. Going from players that expect you to win the game for them, to players that are stabbing backs and trying to keep everyone down to their level made a huge difference. Along with coaches (extremely nice coaches) that celebrate not getting totally destroyed in games, that is tough for girls that are used to a fairly good winning percentage.