Simo
Former High School Coach
If you were up front as mentioned, tell the mom to go along with the program and keep her mouth shut or take her daughter and leave, if she stays, she'll be a constant distraction.
It was meant to place the evaluation shoe on the other foot. Parents are evaluated, or de-valuated according to a relative standard of judgement by people who project to know the college athletic requirements. They make choices, one over another. If the Parent wants a second opinion, they are basically told to shut up ( just on here, I doubt that to much of that really happens face to face) or considered a problem. All I was saying is that Most TB coaches aren't looking into their total potential with a view of the realities of who will be the best in the long run. And that they would find it hard to find employment in a coaching position if they followed their DD to the college she goes to.
I say this because I watched as our local college got a girl. I seen the Pics at the signing, I read her accomplishments in HS and TB, which stated that her Dad was her TB coach, and gave their impressive record. But when I went to the games, she wasn't playing where she was recruited for, an Dad was out raking the field, not AC. I'm letting the OP know that this lady don't like it. You tell her daughter is second best, she's bucking. I'm betting she misunderstood what she was committing too. What I would do is put them head to head in a tryout. Time them running around the bases, stand them at home and see who can throw the ball the furthest ect...No one can buck when they see for themselves that they just got beat out. The problem is you don't have a #3 pitcher, and this lady ain't playing second fiddle to your tune.
"I'm that guy" I have had nothing but trouble from the beginning. But who hasn't. HC's can tell you all the trouble they had when they were AC's. PC's can tell you all the trouble with the HC. Boardmembers of Leagues can tell you all the bad experiences they have at their meetings. I understand, and recognize the root causes @ church, school, and even around our house.I have the feeling that you have had a bad experience with a coach in the recent past.
when how far you throw the ball is important to catching
"I'm that guy" I have had nothing but trouble from the beginning. But who hasn't. HC's can tell you all the trouble they had when they were AC's. PC's can tell you all the trouble with the HC. Boardmembers of Leagues can tell you all the bad experiences they have at their meetings. I understand, and recognize the root causes @ church, school, and even around our house.
In context with this post, the OP says parents should let their DD's do what they want. I'm opposing that. When she is 18 maybe. If she thinks and acts like her mom, no.
I have learned to turn a disdain for the fundamental structure of our game (Daddy Ball) in to love. I have been able to prove to DD that almost every parent (99%) we have come into contact with playing Fastpitch, loves their little clone, and or love their redheaded stepchild,grandchild ect....When we get overwhelmed by the pushy people, we just simile knowing that is because they love them. DD came to the conclusion, that they even love them more than I do her. She said it easy for me to set back, and never say a single negative word to anyone, even the ones the coach is having trouble with. She loves to try new things that she can't do, just to calibrate my love for her. Watch me squirm, then watch me do the same things that the others do. I push everyone to let her say the prayer, I had a custom dress made for the beauty contest, Sing even when she didn't practice, get up and lead the exercise at Karate when she didn't even know it... She loves to see me throw my hands up and stomp off, I guess.
But with ball, I got her going so early, like reading, and riding a bike, she didn't even know what was happening. You tell her she is #2, and you got a war on your hands. She will not rest until she is the best. She does get that from her mom, the attack mode. I will count the losses, and work out how her and I are going to win in the end. Which always leads to more practice.
I guess this all boils down to "My dads better than your dad" When you tell me, she's not good enough to play "A". 12U, 16Gold, D1 college ect... I say you weren't at the nationals this year, and you don't represent a college. I do have plans to be in a business that will allow me to be mobile enough to follow her thru college. If I was a coach, I would be dreaming of her being so good, that I was part of the package. Since I don't have to do the grunt work of a coaching, I'll have the energy to keep DD pitching lessons, speed and agility, strength and conditioning. I will be remodeling a house in the campus area, that she'll be living in and helping with while she goes to school.... I'll be there!
10U... if you have 2 competing for catcher. It doesn't matter how you judge them as long as both girls understand what your criteria of evaluation is, and happening now to settle it...with a stop watch, or drag the tape, or compile a chart....Just like all the tailbacks are doing today and tomorrow, to see who gets the start Sat...Win or lose, they'll be back next week to try again, or be looking for another school...I'm guessing that this Lady is mad, because she was told something, that didn't happen. This is a competition for catcher..."the Field General" it is not trying to get off the bench and out towards the fence. I doubt that the lady would be fighting if her Daughter was clearly less than the other girl. And it is plain to see that she has to be pretty good to let her catch a whole game. If she couldn't, he couldn't let her.
We have a scrimmage this weekend, after 3 practices on our new Team. Two in the field, and one at the batting cage. We have 2 catchers, 4 pitchers, 2 younger girls...twelve in all. 3Coaches DD's...This will be when everyone gets to see if they are going to get what they are wanting... In all honesty, I made no deals, and I have no idea what is going to happen.... Let the games began. Lets see the pigeon holes !!!
OK, that explains a whole lot where you're coming from.
yea... I'm talking 10U only on my Fastpitch level of experience.
Then you don't have much compared to most posters.
Not agreeing with letting my kid do what she wants..
You have taken that statement out of context...That poster meant in regard to softball and what position and team.
I really didn't care what as long as you commit to being the best at it, and I can see it as being a good investment of my time and money.
Why does she need to be the best? Her best maybe but that is not what you said. Investment? Really? How about the time you spend with her. Your support, being there when she fails.
I chose Fastpitch, because of her size, and aptitudes, after we were sent packing from gymnastics at 6, they said she was going to be too big.
I, I, I, enough said!
Yes she has her own catching equipment, I don't know any 16U catchers that don't to be honest.
You contridict yourself, one one hand you say you do not let your kid do what she wants, but on the other hand you pulled her from her softball team for what reason? I would imagine something to the effect to "I don't want to play". Correct? So you actually did allow her to decide.
And you never know about other sports. Maybe the track coach in HS will recruit her to run track instead of playing Softball, or maybe she falls in love with Choir more than Softball.