- Apr 11, 2016
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DD needs to be back on a Div A or upper Div B team. She's been on her current Div C team for 2 seasons, and she hasn't learned much. HC is nice but I think has reached limit in coaching a high-level travel team. Plus, we just want to get away from parent coaching.
Due to COVID last year, DD didn't try out for another team. She hasn't progressed as a player these 2 years. She actually played worse than when she was in 10U and 12U.
We took her to an open tryout recently. We could have done private. However, DD didn't like the pressure of being the only player trying out, plus, I'd like her to have the experience with tryouts.
After the tryout, another girl there knew DD and told her father, and he immediately told DD's current coach that DD was at a tryout. Now HC is upset that DD even try out for other teams. We knew we'd tell HC if DD is guaranteed a spot, otherwise, to keep the peace, we wouldn't say anything.
Is that not appropriate? Where we used to live, everyone knew not to say anything when we saw a player at a tryout. It's none of our business whom we saw at an open tryout, certainly none of our business to tell that player's HC. Even DD, at 13, knows that rule. I thought adults will definitely understand that it's not their place to tattles, but I guess I am wrong. Now we may have no choice but to leave. I am so furious that I fear what I'd do next time I see this guy on the field.
Due to COVID last year, DD didn't try out for another team. She hasn't progressed as a player these 2 years. She actually played worse than when she was in 10U and 12U.
We took her to an open tryout recently. We could have done private. However, DD didn't like the pressure of being the only player trying out, plus, I'd like her to have the experience with tryouts.
After the tryout, another girl there knew DD and told her father, and he immediately told DD's current coach that DD was at a tryout. Now HC is upset that DD even try out for other teams. We knew we'd tell HC if DD is guaranteed a spot, otherwise, to keep the peace, we wouldn't say anything.
Is that not appropriate? Where we used to live, everyone knew not to say anything when we saw a player at a tryout. It's none of our business whom we saw at an open tryout, certainly none of our business to tell that player's HC. Even DD, at 13, knows that rule. I thought adults will definitely understand that it's not their place to tattles, but I guess I am wrong. Now we may have no choice but to leave. I am so furious that I fear what I'd do next time I see this guy on the field.
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