Ok so my honest opinion. When you state that you are worried that YOUR dd is going to be put in the outfield or that YOUR dd will be put on the bench, that tells me that with you as coach, she would NEVER be put in positions that you put other people's children in. It sure sounds like you are worried about you (embarassed) and your child and not asking whether the players are better or worse since you aren't the coach. If your child has talent, perhaps it is better to let her make her way via her skills and not via who the coach is. JMHO!