We are having an issue with our coach and I am unsure about how to handle it. I am apologize in advance for being softball stupid so please bear with me.
My daughter plays for an 8u travel team. She was the lead catcher, but the problem we are having is that he keeps switching her position. He never plays her as catcher during practice, he puts her in the outfield, and he even switches her from lf, cf and rf. However, he'll put her in nearly every other inning as catcher in the tournaments and then gets upset with her if she messes up. He even decided one tournament that she was going to play the pitching position (never played before-not even practice) and again got upset with her for mistakes. They have played 4 tournaments and she has played 5 different positions. I'm not sure what he is trying to do here, but I know she is very confused, and getting very discouraged. He seems to do this with a few players, but most of the infield know their position. Is this something I should approach him about or is there a method to his madness?
The second issue we have is that his daughter is a major brat and bully and she gets away with everything! On most teams we have been on, the coach seems to be a little harder on his own dd, but it is the complete opposite on this team. She tells him what position she is going to play, she'll goof off during games and refuse to hit, she will even hit and tease the girls in the dugout, but there are absolutely no consequences. It's almost as if he is afraid of her. Today, his daughter spent the better part of practice sitting in the grass because she was tired, but he was making some of the girls do push ups for making mistakes and she was laughing about it. Of course my kid was doing those push ups so it really ticked me off. But am I wrong to think that is absolutely insane to let this kid carry on like this? Every parent I have talked to has had something to say about this little girl's behavior...it's crazy! But what do I say that won't be received badly? And can he kick my dd off the team if I have a complaint?
I feel like I should step in somehow, but im not sure if that will help her or hurt her in this situation. It just feels like he is setting her up to fail every time and it's really starting to get her down and making her dislike a game she loved to play just a few months ago.
My daughter plays for an 8u travel team. She was the lead catcher, but the problem we are having is that he keeps switching her position. He never plays her as catcher during practice, he puts her in the outfield, and he even switches her from lf, cf and rf. However, he'll put her in nearly every other inning as catcher in the tournaments and then gets upset with her if she messes up. He even decided one tournament that she was going to play the pitching position (never played before-not even practice) and again got upset with her for mistakes. They have played 4 tournaments and she has played 5 different positions. I'm not sure what he is trying to do here, but I know she is very confused, and getting very discouraged. He seems to do this with a few players, but most of the infield know their position. Is this something I should approach him about or is there a method to his madness?
The second issue we have is that his daughter is a major brat and bully and she gets away with everything! On most teams we have been on, the coach seems to be a little harder on his own dd, but it is the complete opposite on this team. She tells him what position she is going to play, she'll goof off during games and refuse to hit, she will even hit and tease the girls in the dugout, but there are absolutely no consequences. It's almost as if he is afraid of her. Today, his daughter spent the better part of practice sitting in the grass because she was tired, but he was making some of the girls do push ups for making mistakes and she was laughing about it. Of course my kid was doing those push ups so it really ticked me off. But am I wrong to think that is absolutely insane to let this kid carry on like this? Every parent I have talked to has had something to say about this little girl's behavior...it's crazy! But what do I say that won't be received badly? And can he kick my dd off the team if I have a complaint?
I feel like I should step in somehow, but im not sure if that will help her or hurt her in this situation. It just feels like he is setting her up to fail every time and it's really starting to get her down and making her dislike a game she loved to play just a few months ago.