Somewhat related, here is an interesting article regarding athlete burnout. I think it's very apropos to this discussion:
Athlete Burnout | The Educated Sports Parent
Athlete Burnout | The Educated Sports Parent
Single silliest rebuttal I have read period.
You make a commitment start of fall, start of spring, and you should know if you can live up to it or not. Of course they can have life outside of softball and play other sports. Dd is playing basketball now, I had to find a good team that was ok with this and who's practice schedule was something we could do. You choose your team based on your ability to meet their schedule and then commit. Want a team that plays only 1 a month in the fall and that fits your schedule, commit to them. Want to play 3 to 4 a month then find one and commit. Don't commit to a "hard core" team and then skip because something else came up or a 1 a month team. Discuss before season with dd and find a team that fits that you can work around instead of trying to make a team work around your schedule.
Football lasts about as long as fall TB and longer than school ball.
A dance, is not a major event. Prom is but not homecoming.
How many coaches here would feel comfortable with OP's dd if she failed to come to the rescue when her team needed her? 13 or 14 kids on roster, player asks for x date off, you enter showcase in advance with enough girls to cover, you book rooms and spend team money, then you have 3 or 4 injuries and are hurting. How many of you would not be disappointed in the girl that chose a dance over helping her teammates get through this weekend?
Easton, you're clearly in over your head here. It's already been explained that these tournaments, girls miss. Often. If you need more players, you pick them up. At the tournament that Cannonball is at now, the one rule states:
10. A team may use players outside their roster if it is determined they will have to forfeit due to lacking enough players to start a game. If it is determined they are just creating a stronger team it will not be allowed (make sure you let the tournament director know before the game).
There's a reason for this.
It's also been explained to you boys miss travel baseball as well. They do, life happens.
Instead of insisting you're correct on something you clearly aren't well aware of, it would be in your best interest to listen to those that have been there before. We aren't breaking new ground here.
BTW, we had girls miss a Sunday afternoon practice because........they had Homecoming the previous night. They're still good kids and players in our book.
Edit - By the time you're second years 14's, you already know so many teams, coaches, families, players, softball acquaintances, it's not hard to find someone to fill in. Make a phone call or two and you've got a full team again.
Haha. What was the question? Was there a question? We started sounding off on whether someone else's 15 yo should go to homecoming. Next.
How many coaches here would feel comfortable with OP's dd if she failed to come to the rescue when her team needed her? 13 or 14 kids on roster, player asks for x date off, you enter showcase in advance with enough girls to cover, you book rooms and spend team money, then you have 3 or 4 injuries and are hurting. How many of you would not be disappointed in the girl that chose a dance over helping her teammates get through this weekend?
Amen to that. Unless the tourney is a qualifier and the head coach outlined this in red pen (figuratively) as one the kids can't miss, he has no right to guilt trip her after he tells her she can miss two months prior. Commitment goes both ways, and if the coach's word isn't his bond, he has no right getting on a kid who is paying to play. Different story if this is professional, where you do have to earn the paycheck.Alan Inverson's practice rant would actually be appropriate in this thread - "People, we're talking about a showcase tournament, a showcase tournament...
Go to Homecoming. Showcases are a dime a dozen and coaches are there to see players, not whether their team wins or loses