All-Star try outs/player with sickdad.
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Do her a favor.
Yes it will.
Go to the board and tell them what is going on, give them a couple of suggestions on how to handle it, and talk it over.
How about you listen to her mother. There might be more there then just the all stars. Maybe mom wants her dd home more to spend more time with dad and softball will distract and possibly keep her from spending parts of the last summer he has. My son played on his LL all stars for 3 years, he doesn't remember half of what I remember. It obviously meant more to me then him partly because we did it together. Let her spend the time with Dad, in 15 years it will mean a lot more to her then playing softball with a bunch of girls she hasn't seen since.
This may be the last time, that the dad can see her play ball.
What position does she play? For instance, I would make her the best right fielder, that she could become between now and tryouts. Do not take the top 12 players, take the top girls at their position. I have coached All Stars in the past, where I end of with 5 pitchers, 1 catcher and 6 short stops. It never worked out trying to teach players new positions, at that point.
What position does she play? For instance, I would make her the best right fielder, that she could become between now and tryouts. Do not take the top 12 players, take the top girls at their position. I have coached All Stars in the past, where I end of with 5 pitchers, 1 catcher and 6 short stops. It never worked out trying to teach players new positions, at that point.
- Apr 11, 2012
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it's heart wrenching...but an excellent point that someone had to say to help....
you won't second guess your self having her on the team a year from now....if you were going to take 12, just up it to 13 and don't look back....
We have alternates that practice and travel with the team but that understand barring injury or a really big lead they are not playing.
china made a good alternate point-maybe your sister fears the commitment she'll have to make while trying to spend her last few months with her husband. Maybe see how she really feels about it, and if she's giving you an out so you dont't have guilt, or she'd rather end the season and prepare for the inevitable. Prayers for your family.
i would check with the board..we always had 10 spots voted on or tryout basis and the head coach had 2 or 3 picks if they wanted to carry that many players..that was the reward for being selected all star manager/coach. take her
Softball and All-stars is not all about softball and winning games. Sometimes its about life lessons,building character, and learning to do the right thing as a team. I think that if the father and the family are on board for her to play, then she plays. Put her in the games in the correct postion for her skills, play her as much as you can if the father is there, play here less if the father can't be there.
The joy you bring to the father to see his daughter play in the late stages of his life is worth every penny of grief anybody could give you over your decision.
Just my two cents
- Apr 16, 2013
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First, is she able to work with you alot? Are you able? A lot of times the difference between a "B" level player and an "A" level player is how much they work with their parent(s). Ask her, if you get her on the all-star team, is she willing to work her butt off. A LOT can be accomplished in one month at this level. I can't imagine anything a father would like to see more than his daughter accomplishing something like that, especially if she said it was for him.
