- Aug 21, 2008
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This is an open question to private coaches out there. Not necessarily restricted only to pitching coaches because I know there are some hitting instructors who read this forum as well. I welcome their thoughts as well, I truly don't know what to do or how to handle this anymore. Here it goes:
How do you handle a student of yours that is disrespectful towards her parents during the lesson? Let me give you an example for the scenario which will set the stage for my question and how you would respond or what you would do. The mother or the father says something to the pitcher during her lesson, It could be anything but let's just say she was leaning forward at the release. So the parent says "Sally you were leaning over as you release the ball". The girl replies with a nasty look "shut up I know!!!"
Now the parent has virtually no reaction. Maybe the parent gets nasty in return, maybe not.
Either way do you as a coach ever step in and discipline the kid for being disrespectful to parents? Or would you feel it's out of bounds to do that especially if the parent isn't taking care of the situation for themselves. I mean if the parent lets the kid get away with that then who are we to step in and do something?
Or say something! Instinctively I want to tell that kid that her disrespect will not be tolerated during my lesson, Even though the disrespect is not aimed at me. But it's a very slippery slope to discipline someone else's kid especially when they are right there and don't seem to handle it for themselves.
Pardon any grammatical errors I am doing this post on my phone via voice text. But I thought I would send this now and periodically tonight look at the replies. Then again I'm sure Hal already has a chapter dedicated to this in his book, I'm just too lazy to read it!!
Bill
How do you handle a student of yours that is disrespectful towards her parents during the lesson? Let me give you an example for the scenario which will set the stage for my question and how you would respond or what you would do. The mother or the father says something to the pitcher during her lesson, It could be anything but let's just say she was leaning forward at the release. So the parent says "Sally you were leaning over as you release the ball". The girl replies with a nasty look "shut up I know!!!"
Now the parent has virtually no reaction. Maybe the parent gets nasty in return, maybe not.
Either way do you as a coach ever step in and discipline the kid for being disrespectful to parents? Or would you feel it's out of bounds to do that especially if the parent isn't taking care of the situation for themselves. I mean if the parent lets the kid get away with that then who are we to step in and do something?
Or say something! Instinctively I want to tell that kid that her disrespect will not be tolerated during my lesson, Even though the disrespect is not aimed at me. But it's a very slippery slope to discipline someone else's kid especially when they are right there and don't seem to handle it for themselves.
Pardon any grammatical errors I am doing this post on my phone via voice text. But I thought I would send this now and periodically tonight look at the replies. Then again I'm sure Hal already has a chapter dedicated to this in his book, I'm just too lazy to read it!!
Bill