NJgators14uSPARK
Banned
- May 10, 2019
- 72
- 18
Let's think about this for a second. The parent is unhappy with playing time or their daughter's performance. That unhappiness finds it way to car rides and dinners with their children present and listening. At what point do the parents hold themselves accountable for the lack of growth in their child. At some point no matter what the coach says that child is tuning it out. Of course the new coaches where they are moving to are better, because they are feeding them everything they want to hear. Then they go through a season and the child's performance is below average and the cycle continues again. Clear expectations up front is the key. This way the coach can say we have talked about this on numerous occasions and the expectations for parents has been clearly defined. Then the coach can say, Unfortunately we are going to have to move in a different direction.I don't know; I have mixed feelings. As a parent, I would say that it depends on what time of year you're talking about. If they're doing this in the middle of the season, that's one thing. But as we're approaching the end of summer and tryouts for the 2019-2020 year, your contract with them is about to be up and some may be unhappy and looking for a change. In which case you won't have to worry about them next season, so you know, whatever. I mean, people are allowed to be unhappy. Has the parent's child gotten the playing time or played the position promised when undertaking the contract to join your team? Has benching of players for errors been equitable? Or is it simply wanting to move up the ladder (in their perception) to a better team?
Just think about what they could be displeased about. Are you picking up non-rostered players and playing them more than rostered players who have paid full fare? Because that really tends to tick parents off (trust me on this).
If you want to be strict about it, call the parent personally and ask what's up. Have a conversation and listen. If you feel they are stirring things up purposefully, then go ahead and tell them now that they should be looking around for next season. But I don't think I'd cut someone in mid-July when the season's over at the end of the month unless it's something really egregious.