Try to find a team with paid coaches that don't have a DD on the team....
This MIGHT work --- but we have lots of these around here with coaches who are all sorts of useless and you get to pay 2-4x as much for a worse experience.
You still have to do your research even if the coaches don't have a kid on the team - it is just one of many factors. And you shouldn't discount a team just because a coach does have a kid on the team either. Don't just turn your kid over to anyone.