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I am just curious for those who have DDs that have gone through the transition into college, what is the biggest adjustment they had to make on the field or academically? Any big surprises?
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- Oct 22, 2009
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If you're DD has been working on good work ethics and balancing athletics and academics throughout high school, it shouldn't be that hard.
My DD did a lot more running in college than she was used to.
I've known some girls that were "babied" by their parents that had hard times. Teaching them to be able to fix their own light meals and wash their own clothes before heading out is a good idea.
As a parent you're going to have to transition as well, those late night, "I have a flat tire", and crying calls are very stressful to deal with.
And yes, her first summer back home she learned to change a flat tire.
I think the craziest thing that happened to my DD was finding all those things she was allergic to that she had never been exposed to at home, there were a couple of ER trips she had to make to track down those culprits.
Oh, and just a warning, your DD could get influenced by peer pressure to do something you have told her never never to do, and the next thing you know you're stuck with this
My DD did a lot more running in college than she was used to.
I've known some girls that were "babied" by their parents that had hard times. Teaching them to be able to fix their own light meals and wash their own clothes before heading out is a good idea.
As a parent you're going to have to transition as well, those late night, "I have a flat tire", and crying calls are very stressful to deal with.
And yes, her first summer back home she learned to change a flat tire. I think the craziest thing that happened to my DD was finding all those things she was allergic to that she had never been exposed to at home, there were a couple of ER trips she had to make to track down those culprits.
Oh, and just a warning, your DD could get influenced by peer pressure to do something you have told her never never to do, and the next thing you know you're stuck with this
Not all programs are the same but I can tell you about my DD's experience. They have very little free time outside of softball and school. 6:00AM lifts 5 days a week and practices everyday are a wake up call. Helped DD move in on August 15th. Practices started next day. First day off was a Sunday in Mid-September. What you did in HS and TB now means absolutely nothing. You need to get stronger and faster if you plan to play college ball. Fall is about weeding out the non-hackers and seeing who is here to play. Much of it is mental. Stay focused, work hard, and you will be fine.
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Jojo, great post and at least the dog is cute! Great advice on being self-sufficient. If I am honest I am hard on her in some things but I do baby her on others. So great advice. She is good about balancing academics and athletics as a junior in high school but I do think it will be a big step for her at least academically if she goes where she is verbally committed. Thanks again.
Riseball, that was my experience when I played football. I thought playing Texas 5A high school football and going to a small D1-AA would be an easy transition. Those first 4 weeks are still seared in my brain like it happened yesterday and it was over 25 years ago! I love your point about it being mental and I will emphasize that with my DD.
Riseball, that was my experience when I played football. I thought playing Texas 5A high school football and going to a small D1-AA would be an easy transition. Those first 4 weeks are still seared in my brain like it happened yesterday and it was over 25 years ago! I love your point about it being mental and I will emphasize that with my DD.
The experience that you had with football is not very different than most have spending 13 weeks on the island. It changes them forever. My DD had an easier time on the mental part than most because she new it was not personal. The coaches had a certain amount of PT that was to be done and the reason or non-reason they came up with did not really matter. Don't try to understand it, just suck it up and do it. This season she actually looked forward to hell week and flipping tractor tires in the rain.
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They will need to motivate and make decisions for themselves and, good or bad, be accountable for the ramifications, good or bad. The more experience they have doing this before they go to college, the less likely they are to have a major blow out (figuratively) when they get there.
This depends upon what your DD has been exposed to...she has to get used to people with different sexual orientations.
Some teammates might be dating other teammates. There may be displays of affection at inopportune times.
Some teammates might be dating other teammates. There may be displays of affection at inopportune times.
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This may be true in some programs. But many teams both in college and TB have a strict policy against intra-team dating. This was a problem for us last season and this year we put an end to it.
Has nothing to do with being gay. Relationships tend to be transitional. We are here to play ball not to engage in drama. It is an activity that is detrimental to the success of the team. If it was a coed debate team I would have the same policy.
