My husband and I have never said anything to our daughter before or during a game until I tried to give her a helpful tip during warm up - the first and only time, by the way. I have watched the other pitcher's parent do this numerous times. We go the games and watch quietly from the stands during the game and when our daughter is warming up, and go home. The only time we have ever approached the coach about anything was when the pitching coach wanted me to inquire if he would work with her on a time as she had no later ones available, she said other students's coaches, that wanted their pitchers to keep their lessons, had worked with her during season practice hours once a week, so obviously she thought it was possible. And husband had to inform him of the dr.'s instructions about proper warm up. Thats it. We were obviously naive to the fact that we should have been afraid to speak to the coach about anything for fear of being "a problem parent". But you guys have made it very clear that all the above is being "over involved".
Those are the only times we have spoke with him about anything and have never complained about playing time or anything else. No matter the criticism here, it is not o.k. for coach's to let some parents give their child helpful tips during warm up on a regular basis because the parent hangs out with the coach on weekends, and be rude to another child's parent that does it one time. If you think things like that don't affect the kids you are wrong. Yes, I'm sure a coach can do anything he wants but there should be some integrity there also. I know several people that won't allow their kids to even play school sports here because of the politics involved. At least we are trying to deal with it.
Those are the only times we have spoke with him about anything and have never complained about playing time or anything else. No matter the criticism here, it is not o.k. for coach's to let some parents give their child helpful tips during warm up on a regular basis because the parent hangs out with the coach on weekends, and be rude to another child's parent that does it one time. If you think things like that don't affect the kids you are wrong. Yes, I'm sure a coach can do anything he wants but there should be some integrity there also. I know several people that won't allow their kids to even play school sports here because of the politics involved. At least we are trying to deal with it.