My DD speaks very highly of the daughter and tells me she has heard nothing but positive comments about her work ethic and play from her current teammates (yes I have been sending my DD out on her own scouting expeditions). Now for those of you who are offended by religious discussions stop reading here.
As a Christian I turn to the bible when confronted with ethical dilemmas. To liberally paraphrase Ezekial 18:20 daughters do not bear the sins of the father (yes you can argue Deuteronomy 5:9 contradicts this but you have to take it in full context that it applies to those who reject God). I cannot in good conscious exclude this girl from the team as she I have been told she exhibits the behaviors I expect in a member of my team. If I did exclude her it would be because of her father and I would be betraying a core tenant of my beliefs. Yes I am probably creating a headache for myself but I am willing to take on that burden. I will carefully word my parent meeting to make it clear that I will deal directly and immediately with code of conduct violations by either players or parents.