With a teen, I would take her out and play catch and then, do some hitting practice.
This is going to be a little tough love...
There are two kinds of competition in sports. The first kind of competition is against the other team. The second kind is against players on your own team for playing time. The second kind is where the great players are made.
A lot of parents and kids don't understand "competition within the team for playing time." Basically, the concept is that if players have to fight and claw for playing time, then they will become better players. They will work harder. So, no player on the is guaranteed *anything*. Coaches who run teams like this usually consistently produce winners--they also make a lot of parents unhappy.
My next question may be more of a parenting question than softball, but how do you deal with the situations when your dd gets down on themselves and wonders if all of this hard work is worth it? My dd is a very emotional 14 year old, how or what have you done to get them over this hump?
Close...I took her out for a pedicure!