Just curious to the thoughts of those more experienced on this board. If you know you would never play for that team is it bad etiquette to attend their tryout?
A few days ago there was nothing going on so DD and four of her friends (with parents) went to a tryout of an org they probably would never join because they are happy with their current team. We didn't realize what the org was about until we got there and it turns out this was more of a "B" level team. There's nothing wrong with a "B" level team but basically these girls are well coached "A" players with a few travel seasons under their belt trying out for a "B" level team. I know it sounds a little boastful but since the other girls trying out seemed relatively inexperienced they ended up being by a large margin the best players there. It was also obvious they knew each other and were all friends. One nice thing that came out of it besides getting a little practice in was the girls met and made friends with some of the other girls trying out and seemed to have fun for the few hours they were there.
I started feeling guilty when the head coach and his assistants after the tryout basically put on the full court press after the tryout to myself and DD's friends parents in attendance asking what it would take to get our girls to join the team.
I also noticed that the "A" level girls presence made some girls who might legitimately be trying out look worse than they really were as the skill level was so different it looked to me the coaches evaluating started to ignore and pay less attention to some of the other players and just pay attention to the better players.
I always thought tryouts could be good practice for a player for "trying out". Sort of like the more you interview for jobs the better you get at being interviewed. At 12U my DD (still 10yo; next year 11) although she has 2 years of travel experience hasn't attended that many tryouts so in my mind she is relatively inexperienced at it and I would like her to get used to it. I think being experienced at "trying out" can only help her in the future for teams she really wants to make.
Thoughts on this? Is it bad etiquette to bring a player to tryouts of organizations that she really would never accept an offer from? Or can I look at it another way and see if the organization can change my mind about them?
A few days ago there was nothing going on so DD and four of her friends (with parents) went to a tryout of an org they probably would never join because they are happy with their current team. We didn't realize what the org was about until we got there and it turns out this was more of a "B" level team. There's nothing wrong with a "B" level team but basically these girls are well coached "A" players with a few travel seasons under their belt trying out for a "B" level team. I know it sounds a little boastful but since the other girls trying out seemed relatively inexperienced they ended up being by a large margin the best players there. It was also obvious they knew each other and were all friends. One nice thing that came out of it besides getting a little practice in was the girls met and made friends with some of the other girls trying out and seemed to have fun for the few hours they were there.
I started feeling guilty when the head coach and his assistants after the tryout basically put on the full court press after the tryout to myself and DD's friends parents in attendance asking what it would take to get our girls to join the team.
I also noticed that the "A" level girls presence made some girls who might legitimately be trying out look worse than they really were as the skill level was so different it looked to me the coaches evaluating started to ignore and pay less attention to some of the other players and just pay attention to the better players.
I always thought tryouts could be good practice for a player for "trying out". Sort of like the more you interview for jobs the better you get at being interviewed. At 12U my DD (still 10yo; next year 11) although she has 2 years of travel experience hasn't attended that many tryouts so in my mind she is relatively inexperienced at it and I would like her to get used to it. I think being experienced at "trying out" can only help her in the future for teams she really wants to make.
Thoughts on this? Is it bad etiquette to bring a player to tryouts of organizations that she really would never accept an offer from? Or can I look at it another way and see if the organization can change my mind about them?