This is a 10u team we're talking about?? You were making it sound as if this was a 14u team or at least 2nd-year 12u.
Without knowing the individuals involved, it's hard to know all of the politics involved. With a lot of girls on a B team, friendships are important also. Think through the politics. Is your number 1 pitcher best friends with the girl you plan to cut? If so, she might follow her friend to the neighboring B team so they can play together. It can be very complicated with a "family" type B team. I'm not saying this is the case for you, but just make sure you think through all of the ramifications when making you decision.
But they also want to become a better team and know that they'd be better on the field without her.
You need to cut her if she is weaker than the other players you have tryout. Here's why.
You stated the dad knows how weak she is.
You said she is a practice player.
You have to continually correct the same weaknesses over and over.
It's VERY apparent the dad is not working with her.
From what you describe it sounds as though she likes to participate but has not made the sport hers.
Have you had the discussion of exactly all the negatives you've outlined here with the dad? If not you need to. The suggestion of a practice player spot sounds like a good idea for this girl. If she doesn't put the work in on her own there is nothing more you can do for her.
You know what needs to be done for the TEAM. It's OK to do what you have to do for the rest of the kids. Quit beating yourself up over it and do it.
Sorry if that seems harsh but the team needs to come first if you have a set idea of how you would like to develop them. It's never easy. I watched the director of a high-power program agonize over having to make a similar cut to a good kid who was in the program for years. She didn't measure up with the talent that showed up at tryouts. He made the cut for the good of the team.
I think you're spot on w/ all the ramifications that must be considered. In this case, I don't think anyone would mind her departure. That doesn't mean they don't like her. They do. But they also want to become a better team and know that they'd be better on the field without her.
What a horrible sentiment. Throw your friend under the bus so you can be a better soft ball team!
So much for loyalty.
There comes a time in life when you have to take steps and make choices. If you just want to have fun and looking for a surrogate family, then find that. Not everyone wants or needs that. The coach is taking the proper steps to take the team to the next level. Second year 12s is a good time to head that way.
I like my job and really like the people I work with and they like me, I contribute. But if I failed to contribute, do my job, you can bet that I would be replaced-even though it is a family atmosphere.
I have known instances of a kid being cut at tryouts, going to another team for a couple of years and then coming back a better player.
There comes a time in life when you have to take steps and make choices. If you just want to have fun and looking for a surrogate family, then find that. Not everyone wants or needs that. The coach is taking the proper steps to take the team to the next level. Second year 12s is a good time to head that way.
I like my job and really like the people I work with and they like me, I contribute. But if I failed to contribute, do my job, you can bet that I would be replaced-even though it is a family atmosphere.
I have known instances of a kid being cut at tryouts, going to another team for a couple of years and then coming back a better player.