My advice to the OP would be to ask the parents of all of the other players how they feel about the coaching staff and how trips have gone in the past. I know it's hard as a freshman parent, being new, but maybe there is a "team mom/manager" - a parent of one of the seniors, maybe - that you can ask. Get as good a feel as you can for the coach, the staff and the program. Since the coach did say that parents are welcome to come, maybe it is completely normal for parents to go, sleep in the same hotel, and see their daughters at the games and a quick hello during any downtime.
I'm often surprised at how little oversight there is with the athletic departments of the high schools I have been a part of. Any tiny little field trip for class, even just walking down the street, requires a permission slip with a set departure and return time; however, our athletes routinely go places with their high school coach, often (here, anyway) in private cars without any sort of notice as to when the athletes are leaving, when they are returning, or even where they are going (often JV teams play their games at a park field, separate from the high school).
Several years back, a school in our district had an incident of sexual abuse involving a coach. It turned out that this coach already had a "reputation" amongst the students as a sleeze. The school authorities did not notice or react to the warning signs and the incident occured on an overnight trip. I really believe that we as parents have to listen our gut and respond to any situation that makes us, or our daughters, feel "weird".
I'm often surprised at how little oversight there is with the athletic departments of the high schools I have been a part of. Any tiny little field trip for class, even just walking down the street, requires a permission slip with a set departure and return time; however, our athletes routinely go places with their high school coach, often (here, anyway) in private cars without any sort of notice as to when the athletes are leaving, when they are returning, or even where they are going (often JV teams play their games at a park field, separate from the high school).
Several years back, a school in our district had an incident of sexual abuse involving a coach. It turned out that this coach already had a "reputation" amongst the students as a sleeze. The school authorities did not notice or react to the warning signs and the incident occured on an overnight trip. I really believe that we as parents have to listen our gut and respond to any situation that makes us, or our daughters, feel "weird".
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