You make a good point.
I don't stay blind. I watch, I listen, and trust the HS group she is with. There is a good history, though sometimes that is not enough.
The only part about the OP's story which is different than mine is the "sleep over" part. This part of it is problematic. Our HS does not do that, when more than enough parents are always present to make sure each player has their "own" bed to sleep in. It seems totally unnecessary, for an event like this, and yeah, possible concern for alarm. Why can they not choose where to sleep? when many, many parents are there just for that?
Sure, I would question why a group of young ladies are forced to sleep in someone elses surroundings, when it is not necessary.
Even then, I would be there, in the same hotel. If I had any inkling my daughter was not comfortable with the sleeping arrangements, I would immediately go to the coach. Say she is young, not entirely comfortable, and she is sleeping in my room. See you in the morning.
The bus part, eating with the team, them having custody, is standard in many parts of the country. It must be dealt with, is part of growing up, and a parent should welcome this transition into early adulthood.
I personally enjoy the out of town HS tourneys. And all of HS in general, because it is structured for the parent to not be involved. DD cannot dial up help from daddy, at her beckons call, for her little needs. I find it very relaxing, and still get to watch her try to perform magic on the field.
I don't stay blind. I watch, I listen, and trust the HS group she is with. There is a good history, though sometimes that is not enough.
The only part about the OP's story which is different than mine is the "sleep over" part. This part of it is problematic. Our HS does not do that, when more than enough parents are always present to make sure each player has their "own" bed to sleep in. It seems totally unnecessary, for an event like this, and yeah, possible concern for alarm. Why can they not choose where to sleep? when many, many parents are there just for that?
Sure, I would question why a group of young ladies are forced to sleep in someone elses surroundings, when it is not necessary.
Even then, I would be there, in the same hotel. If I had any inkling my daughter was not comfortable with the sleeping arrangements, I would immediately go to the coach. Say she is young, not entirely comfortable, and she is sleeping in my room. See you in the morning.
The bus part, eating with the team, them having custody, is standard in many parts of the country. It must be dealt with, is part of growing up, and a parent should welcome this transition into early adulthood.
I personally enjoy the out of town HS tourneys. And all of HS in general, because it is structured for the parent to not be involved. DD cannot dial up help from daddy, at her beckons call, for her little needs. I find it very relaxing, and still get to watch her try to perform magic on the field.
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