- Mar 29, 2012
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The situation
I am a AC for my DD's team. We have two mian pitchers and two other girls who are learning. The two main pitchers have split time pretty even through the season with pitcher #1 having maybe 5 more innings pitched than #2.
The other night we got up a 20 to 1 lead after 4 innings so for the 5th inning I suggested to the HC we split the inning between #3 and #4 pitcher letting each get to pitch to a few batters. (My DD is #3 and our league has a mercy rule for 10 run lead at the end of 5 innings). One of the other assistants wasn't happy about it but didn't really say anything just muttered under her breath.
Tonight we had another game and had a 16-1 lead going into the 5th. I suggested to the HC we again give the #3 and #4 pitcher the last inning to split. Now the #1 had pitched 3 innings and #2 had pitched 1 inning in the game.
When the HC told the other two pitchers to warm up while we were batting the other AC threw a fit. She went off about how it was unfair to pitcher #2 (her friends DD) and how she deserved pitching time and how she deserved to be the one to finish the game. i replied that pitcher #2 has had a lot of circle time this season and the only time we can get work in for the other pitchers is when we have a big lead like this.
She responds with pitcher #2 hasn't had a lot of work this paticular game and we would be screwing her by letting someone else pitch. I was really hot by now and was about ready to blow when I look over and see our girls in the dugout just staring. I threw my hands up and say whatever and walk away not wanting it to go any further in front of the girls.
well bottom of the inning comes up and sure enough HC caved and pitcher #2 comes out to finish the game. This isn't the first time someting has come up and HC caved. In an earlier game we had a good lead and I suggested we move out starting infielders to the outfield and let the backups come in to get some time at their backup position. We moved all our infielders out except one (the other AC's DD) because the other 2 AC (1 was gone for this game they are good friends) had a fit at the thought of her DD in the outfield and HC gave in then to.
I was so mad about this tonight that after we went and ate and came home I called HC and told her I would be stepping down. I can't take the other 2 AC favoring certain girls and getting their way when they throw a fit in front of the girls (2nd time they started a argument right in front of the girls). Funny thing is pither #2 was #3 last year and almost never got in the circle and her mom and her friends complained all the time about how it was unfair she didn't get time. She is getting a lot of time this year becuase last years #1 went to travel, but when I suggest we split a single inning between #3 and #4 when we have a huge lead it's "unfair" to that same girl.
Thing is i am the one who does the most physical work at practice. At the beginning of the year it was me and HC, but HC now has a injured hand so since then it has been me and one of the dad's who makes it to practice when he can tossing front toss, hitting grounders, and throwing pop ups. While the other 2 AC's either stand to the side and gossip or maybe stand at the plate and have the girls throw the ball back into them.
So when I said I was stepping down she asked me not to, asked me to at least take the weekend to think about it. She said she is going to have a talk with the other AC and that she agrees with me, but I think once the other AC gets back and it is the two if them she will cave every time they want something.
My DD doesn't want me to quit, but I just don't think I can do it and keep my cool. I was so furious I just about pulled DD and walked away from the game tonight. I think this stuff will continue and I can't just ignore it because it isn't right, and even though I love working with the girls I am afraid my anger with the way the other AC's are acting will start to show thorugh and affect the girls.
What do you think, should I just step down.
I am a AC for my DD's team. We have two mian pitchers and two other girls who are learning. The two main pitchers have split time pretty even through the season with pitcher #1 having maybe 5 more innings pitched than #2.
The other night we got up a 20 to 1 lead after 4 innings so for the 5th inning I suggested to the HC we split the inning between #3 and #4 pitcher letting each get to pitch to a few batters. (My DD is #3 and our league has a mercy rule for 10 run lead at the end of 5 innings). One of the other assistants wasn't happy about it but didn't really say anything just muttered under her breath.
Tonight we had another game and had a 16-1 lead going into the 5th. I suggested to the HC we again give the #3 and #4 pitcher the last inning to split. Now the #1 had pitched 3 innings and #2 had pitched 1 inning in the game.
When the HC told the other two pitchers to warm up while we were batting the other AC threw a fit. She went off about how it was unfair to pitcher #2 (her friends DD) and how she deserved pitching time and how she deserved to be the one to finish the game. i replied that pitcher #2 has had a lot of circle time this season and the only time we can get work in for the other pitchers is when we have a big lead like this.
She responds with pitcher #2 hasn't had a lot of work this paticular game and we would be screwing her by letting someone else pitch. I was really hot by now and was about ready to blow when I look over and see our girls in the dugout just staring. I threw my hands up and say whatever and walk away not wanting it to go any further in front of the girls.
well bottom of the inning comes up and sure enough HC caved and pitcher #2 comes out to finish the game. This isn't the first time someting has come up and HC caved. In an earlier game we had a good lead and I suggested we move out starting infielders to the outfield and let the backups come in to get some time at their backup position. We moved all our infielders out except one (the other AC's DD) because the other 2 AC (1 was gone for this game they are good friends) had a fit at the thought of her DD in the outfield and HC gave in then to.
I was so mad about this tonight that after we went and ate and came home I called HC and told her I would be stepping down. I can't take the other 2 AC favoring certain girls and getting their way when they throw a fit in front of the girls (2nd time they started a argument right in front of the girls). Funny thing is pither #2 was #3 last year and almost never got in the circle and her mom and her friends complained all the time about how it was unfair she didn't get time. She is getting a lot of time this year becuase last years #1 went to travel, but when I suggest we split a single inning between #3 and #4 when we have a huge lead it's "unfair" to that same girl.
Thing is i am the one who does the most physical work at practice. At the beginning of the year it was me and HC, but HC now has a injured hand so since then it has been me and one of the dad's who makes it to practice when he can tossing front toss, hitting grounders, and throwing pop ups. While the other 2 AC's either stand to the side and gossip or maybe stand at the plate and have the girls throw the ball back into them.
So when I said I was stepping down she asked me not to, asked me to at least take the weekend to think about it. She said she is going to have a talk with the other AC and that she agrees with me, but I think once the other AC gets back and it is the two if them she will cave every time they want something.
My DD doesn't want me to quit, but I just don't think I can do it and keep my cool. I was so furious I just about pulled DD and walked away from the game tonight. I think this stuff will continue and I can't just ignore it because it isn't right, and even though I love working with the girls I am afraid my anger with the way the other AC's are acting will start to show thorugh and affect the girls.
What do you think, should I just step down.
