This is 16U A-level team. Head Coach is fantastic and the original Assistant Coach is as well. My DD had a stress fracture in her foot over Dec/Jan, so we were out for a while and missed practices. When we came back for our first spring tournament in February, one Dad was now serving on the coaching staff (primarily as first-base coach). Our #1 pitcher's father was already grousing about it when we saw him, but we didn't make too much of it.
That weekend, he not once but twice, showed his rear end (colorful expression we use here in the South) by challenging calls (both of which involved his own DD) by screaming and essentially charging the umpire. This was jarring to say the least. It then happened again at another tournament. At this point, we'd spoken with several other parents, all of whom echoed frustration. If all that HC needed was a warm body to help, he had numerous other choices and this guy doesn't even really know what he's talking about in terms of coaching (he certainly thinks he does).
My DH spoke to HC who acknowledged that there was an issue and basically said, "I'll take care of it." A couple of weeks later, problem AC is back at it. This time, my DH actually approached him and told him that our DD will not play for a Coach who behaves that way and that he was being a terrible role model. DH does not mince words, so that is pretty much what he said. Bad AC got pissed at my DH and moped.
Today, he's still there. During the game, girl on the opposing team slid into third. She was obviously out, but ump called her safe. HC calmly appealed the call and they conferred and called her out. The opposing HC appealed again and then they called her safe. Like, huh? Bad AC went BALLISTIC, screaming and the whole nine yards. ALL of our parents were embarrassed and mortified. Later in the game, our CF missed a ball and HC took her out (I think she'd had an error previously). She was obviously pissed at herself, but went into the dugout and bad AC lit into her LOUDLY and was berating her for not listening to him, etc...
At this point, HC signaled for the team manager to get him out of there, which she did. She had words with him over to the side and then he sat and watched the rest of the game.
My question: at what point do the parents on this team need to play hardball and tell our HC (whom we love) that it's this guy or a bunch of us will walk? He was not on the coaching staff when we signed on. I honestly do not understand HC's reluctance. It's not like bad AC's DD is irreplaceable or our #1 pitcher or anything. What would you (parents/coaches) recommend?
That weekend, he not once but twice, showed his rear end (colorful expression we use here in the South) by challenging calls (both of which involved his own DD) by screaming and essentially charging the umpire. This was jarring to say the least. It then happened again at another tournament. At this point, we'd spoken with several other parents, all of whom echoed frustration. If all that HC needed was a warm body to help, he had numerous other choices and this guy doesn't even really know what he's talking about in terms of coaching (he certainly thinks he does).
My DH spoke to HC who acknowledged that there was an issue and basically said, "I'll take care of it." A couple of weeks later, problem AC is back at it. This time, my DH actually approached him and told him that our DD will not play for a Coach who behaves that way and that he was being a terrible role model. DH does not mince words, so that is pretty much what he said. Bad AC got pissed at my DH and moped.
Today, he's still there. During the game, girl on the opposing team slid into third. She was obviously out, but ump called her safe. HC calmly appealed the call and they conferred and called her out. The opposing HC appealed again and then they called her safe. Like, huh? Bad AC went BALLISTIC, screaming and the whole nine yards. ALL of our parents were embarrassed and mortified. Later in the game, our CF missed a ball and HC took her out (I think she'd had an error previously). She was obviously pissed at herself, but went into the dugout and bad AC lit into her LOUDLY and was berating her for not listening to him, etc...
At this point, HC signaled for the team manager to get him out of there, which she did. She had words with him over to the side and then he sat and watched the rest of the game.
My question: at what point do the parents on this team need to play hardball and tell our HC (whom we love) that it's this guy or a bunch of us will walk? He was not on the coaching staff when we signed on. I honestly do not understand HC's reluctance. It's not like bad AC's DD is irreplaceable or our #1 pitcher or anything. What would you (parents/coaches) recommend?