Yikes. I think there's probably plenty of fault to go around.
The jerk dad and jerk daughter sound horrible. She must be a really good player to be allowed to stay.
The HC doesn't seem to know what he wants (other than "can't we all just get along"). The AC seems to not have your back.
Perhaps coaching isn't for you. I learned it wasn't for me. I loved it, but really disliked the parent aspect. They'll take any chance, any reason, any opportunity to put any and all blame on the one coach they like the least. And in many cases, that was me. I'm a bit gruff, expect the girls to not goof off, and was the one getting them to pay attention. I was also the one who told them why their daughter batted 10th, and gave them constructive criticism, exercises/drills to work on, etc.
So when the girl struck out for the 8th time that tournament, it was obviously my fault. When a girl ran through my sign and got thrown out, it was my fault. When their daughter didn't get to play SS every inning, that was my fault. And they talked behind my back, tried to sour others against me, etc. etc.
I simply felt life was too short for that shirt, so I don't coach. I miss parts of it, but overall I'm happier. And because I was a coach and the new coaches know that, they come to me with ideas and ask me questions. I'm the first they ask when they need more help with drill stations or BP. So I still feel a bit more plugged in than just a parent.
So perhaps coaching just isn't right for you and this team. Maybe it will be another day. In my case, the HC and other AC had my back 100%, they kicked a few families off the team, and they too took some crap. Your case sounds far worse than mine and I gave up coaching. Consider it -- at least where this team is concerned.
The jerk dad and jerk daughter sound horrible. She must be a really good player to be allowed to stay.
The HC doesn't seem to know what he wants (other than "can't we all just get along"). The AC seems to not have your back.
Perhaps coaching isn't for you. I learned it wasn't for me. I loved it, but really disliked the parent aspect. They'll take any chance, any reason, any opportunity to put any and all blame on the one coach they like the least. And in many cases, that was me. I'm a bit gruff, expect the girls to not goof off, and was the one getting them to pay attention. I was also the one who told them why their daughter batted 10th, and gave them constructive criticism, exercises/drills to work on, etc.
So when the girl struck out for the 8th time that tournament, it was obviously my fault. When a girl ran through my sign and got thrown out, it was my fault. When their daughter didn't get to play SS every inning, that was my fault. And they talked behind my back, tried to sour others against me, etc. etc.
I simply felt life was too short for that shirt, so I don't coach. I miss parts of it, but overall I'm happier. And because I was a coach and the new coaches know that, they come to me with ideas and ask me questions. I'm the first they ask when they need more help with drill stations or BP. So I still feel a bit more plugged in than just a parent.
So perhaps coaching just isn't right for you and this team. Maybe it will be another day. In my case, the HC and other AC had my back 100%, they kicked a few families off the team, and they too took some crap. Your case sounds far worse than mine and I gave up coaching. Consider it -- at least where this team is concerned.