When it got cancelled, she accepted plans to do something with a bunch of friends that she turned down prior because of softball. How would it look if she said yes to them now, then backed out again because of softball?
In either case it is an organization - be prepared for potential fall-out. Ya can't expect organization leaders to be "understanding" although we all wish.....
How would it look if she said yes to them now, then backed out again because of softball?