- Jun 3, 2011
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Hello,
I’m new here. I was looking for similar situations that happened to me last. I’m a fairly new to coaching. Currently I’m coaching girls 10U. My daughter is on the team and the main reason I volunteered to “help out”. Helping out 3 years ago instantly turned into head coach. I enjoy it and it’s something my daughter and I can enjoy together. Last night a parent approached me and the other coach on our team. He started off by loudly making a sarcastic comment thanking us for letting his daughter pitch in what he thought was a coach’s daughter pitches only team. His observation is correct in that my daughter and the other coaches daughter pitch the most innings (2 each game, maybe 3 each). We have the mentioned parent’s daughter pitch and inning on occasion and another girl is an inning only girl. Our daughters have a full understanding of the game and work hard at home on all aspects of the game. The pitch well, hit well, play defense well and just plain hustle. The complaining parent’s daughter pitches decent, hits decent but has no hustle, won’t pay attention in the field. She has no instinct on what to do with the ball when she gets it, on the mound she does all she can do to duck or step aside. In my 3 years of coaching I have never had any formal education on how to coach these girls. I’m pulling from experiences that I had as a kid in the 60’s & early 70’s and common sense. I play this girl in the outfield most of the time, RF. I do it because it’s safe for her. She just doesn’t seem to want to play but she wants to pitch because Dad says she is good. Anyhow the parent fired off publicly with a verbal assault. I pretty much told him his daughter isn’t pitching because she doesn’t hustle or show any motivation and fails to retain any fielding skills that are taught to her. I explained my thoughts on having her in a ‘safe” position. He didn’t like my approach, it was an ugly 5 minutes. We said if he didn’t like the way we were coaching then he needs to step up and volunteer to coach. He said he is signing up for next year. We’ll see, I then invited him to help out at next Tuesday’s game. He said he cannot. Now I have known this parent for 3-4 years and also know that he plays in a men’s softball league and on Tuesday’s he has games. So I got bent out of shape and thanked him for his explaining his priorities. They left and vowed to email the league. I hope he does because I did as soon as I got home and included all levels of the league on the email. I don’t claim to be a great coach but the girls are playing well and having fun without me ever having to raise my voice or speak meanly to them. I pity the girl, now her dad is “that parent”
I didn’t sleep well last night because it bothered me but I’m not sure what to do. I don’t expect much from the league.
Oh well, thanks for letting me vent.
Doug
I’m new here. I was looking for similar situations that happened to me last. I’m a fairly new to coaching. Currently I’m coaching girls 10U. My daughter is on the team and the main reason I volunteered to “help out”. Helping out 3 years ago instantly turned into head coach. I enjoy it and it’s something my daughter and I can enjoy together. Last night a parent approached me and the other coach on our team. He started off by loudly making a sarcastic comment thanking us for letting his daughter pitch in what he thought was a coach’s daughter pitches only team. His observation is correct in that my daughter and the other coaches daughter pitch the most innings (2 each game, maybe 3 each). We have the mentioned parent’s daughter pitch and inning on occasion and another girl is an inning only girl. Our daughters have a full understanding of the game and work hard at home on all aspects of the game. The pitch well, hit well, play defense well and just plain hustle. The complaining parent’s daughter pitches decent, hits decent but has no hustle, won’t pay attention in the field. She has no instinct on what to do with the ball when she gets it, on the mound she does all she can do to duck or step aside. In my 3 years of coaching I have never had any formal education on how to coach these girls. I’m pulling from experiences that I had as a kid in the 60’s & early 70’s and common sense. I play this girl in the outfield most of the time, RF. I do it because it’s safe for her. She just doesn’t seem to want to play but she wants to pitch because Dad says she is good. Anyhow the parent fired off publicly with a verbal assault. I pretty much told him his daughter isn’t pitching because she doesn’t hustle or show any motivation and fails to retain any fielding skills that are taught to her. I explained my thoughts on having her in a ‘safe” position. He didn’t like my approach, it was an ugly 5 minutes. We said if he didn’t like the way we were coaching then he needs to step up and volunteer to coach. He said he is signing up for next year. We’ll see, I then invited him to help out at next Tuesday’s game. He said he cannot. Now I have known this parent for 3-4 years and also know that he plays in a men’s softball league and on Tuesday’s he has games. So I got bent out of shape and thanked him for his explaining his priorities. They left and vowed to email the league. I hope he does because I did as soon as I got home and included all levels of the league on the email. I don’t claim to be a great coach but the girls are playing well and having fun without me ever having to raise my voice or speak meanly to them. I pity the girl, now her dad is “that parent”
I didn’t sleep well last night because it bothered me but I’m not sure what to do. I don’t expect much from the league.
Oh well, thanks for letting me vent.
Doug