My computer is not the best, but I am not so sure it didn't hit him before the bat. When I heard about it I thought it would be more obvious. I have not instructed DD to fake it, but have talked with her about selling herself and being confident on close plays. And, if the umpire says take your base, don't look at him and go "huh?" you take your base.
If an umpire awards you a base, keep your mouth closed and take it, a girl might not even know it hit her uniform.. There are usually multiple questionable calls that go both ways in every game, you will disadvantage yourself by declining yours in the name of fairness and honesty. You can bet the other team wont.