I manage 11/12 major girls softball. So at practice today one of my girls is complaining. She needs a tissue. Then her nose is bleeding, maybe. Then the ball hit her wrist and it really hurts. Then I turn around and she's laying on the ground like she's just taking a break. "Get up," I says. "I can't! I can't feel my knee!" So I run over there and ask her to roll up the pants leg. A little red. She was sliding wrong and probably banged up the knee a bit. "It hurts!" "I thought you said you can't feel your knee? You gonna be okay?" "I guess."
I go back to the practice. "She's crying," a teammate says. I go over there again. "Can you stand on it?" "No, I don't think so." Okay, so I help her over to the dugout and ice up her knee and have a teammate sit with her while I call her mom. "You need to come get your daughter. She's hurt her knee, but I don't think it's serious." Now I'm pissed. This one complains all the time about these supposed injuries. Nobody can get hurt that often. So when Mom gets there I call the girl over to where Mom is and I give both of them the speech about "crying wolf" and all that. I state that the player often complains about little injuries and I'm unsure which are serious and which aren't. I also explain that this behavior is not accepted on her school team and it won't be accepted here. Mom doesn't say a word, daughter is quiet. I then say, "I still love ya, though! See you at the game tomorrow." And they leave.
Now I'm home and I feel like crap about it. I'm relatively new at managing (managed fall ball last year) and I'm a nice guy so it hurts to have to be stern like this. Got knots in my stomach. This girl is really good on the field and I've asst. coached her for a few years now so we know each other. She's got a rocket for an arm and is my first batter in the lineup and I really like her. Did I handle this right? Should I just accept this as part of managing and move on? Or was there a better way and should I have cut her more slack? As you can see, I over-analyze the crap outta stuff sometimes.
I go back to the practice. "She's crying," a teammate says. I go over there again. "Can you stand on it?" "No, I don't think so." Okay, so I help her over to the dugout and ice up her knee and have a teammate sit with her while I call her mom. "You need to come get your daughter. She's hurt her knee, but I don't think it's serious." Now I'm pissed. This one complains all the time about these supposed injuries. Nobody can get hurt that often. So when Mom gets there I call the girl over to where Mom is and I give both of them the speech about "crying wolf" and all that. I state that the player often complains about little injuries and I'm unsure which are serious and which aren't. I also explain that this behavior is not accepted on her school team and it won't be accepted here. Mom doesn't say a word, daughter is quiet. I then say, "I still love ya, though! See you at the game tomorrow." And they leave.
Now I'm home and I feel like crap about it. I'm relatively new at managing (managed fall ball last year) and I'm a nice guy so it hurts to have to be stern like this. Got knots in my stomach. This girl is really good on the field and I've asst. coached her for a few years now so we know each other. She's got a rocket for an arm and is my first batter in the lineup and I really like her. Did I handle this right? Should I just accept this as part of managing and move on? Or was there a better way and should I have cut her more slack? As you can see, I over-analyze the crap outta stuff sometimes.