Hi all -
I do some rec coaching for a couple of different age groups locally. I serve as head coach for a 7-8 yo team (Pinto), and assist on what I guess would be 11-14 year olds (Bronco). I've coached a number of seasons, and have never been as aggravated by a situation as I am now with a player on this older team.
The girl is quite obviously the team bully. Most everyone is clearly intimidated by her. At practice, if she misses a ball she'll have a random player go get it for her. When throwing to any player, she fires the ball like she's throwing from outfield to home. She has thrown from a full windup, hitting a player not even facing her - much less expecting a throw. At a game last night, on warming up between innings she threw from 1st to the area behind the 3rd base dugout - to no one, but obviously trying for near misses. One time almost hitting me, once almost taking out the head coach, and again almost getting the opposing team's coach.
So far, I've been the only one to speak up about this. When she struck the other player, and told me that's just how she threw - I sat her out of practice. I explained to her that I would not tolerate anyone intentionally trying to hurt any of my players - her included. This episode just seemed to make her more smug, and definitely didn't make her calm things down for the next game. As I said, I'm assisting. I don't make the lineup or she'd be benched, or at best be in the outfield where she can put her arm to good use. (She typically starts 1st base)
If a ball is hit even remotely into her area, she gives everything to get to it. If it's thrown to her by another player, she won't stretch an arm to make the play - and she'll chew out whoever made less than a perfect throw. She constantly picks at and corrects everything done by all other players. You can tell a few others try to follow her and do this too - I guess trying to get higher into the pecking order.
We're a winning team, and she's a skillful player - but not the sole reason for our success by a long shot. We have several experienced, hard working players - along with a few first-timers. If this keeps up, I can't see how we'll get through the season without her injuring someone physically, or causing a player to give up ball because it's just not worth it. (Maybe even a coach)
Like I said - all coaches see and acknowledge that there is a problem, but I seem to be the only one who thinks something should be said or done. When the kid is not bullying, she can be bright, funny, and show real spirit - like in the dugout. I really don't want to see it escalate to a point where the school system takes notice and it would effect her opportunities in HS ball. But then again - the kid has already been kicked out of a local child care program - and is proud to tell anyone about it. I wonder if getting booted here would be another star in her crown.
It's pretty obvious that the head coach wants to avoid any conflict, and really doesn't want his kid to be the victim of retaliation - but I really don't want to explain to a parent about how their player got hurt, and know that I saw it coming and did nothing.
Sorry for the long post. This may be a very common situation that y'all may see each and every season - but for me, I've never faced a situation as blatant and felt as helpless to do anything about it.
Thanks for any tips or suggestions you can throw out.
I do some rec coaching for a couple of different age groups locally. I serve as head coach for a 7-8 yo team (Pinto), and assist on what I guess would be 11-14 year olds (Bronco). I've coached a number of seasons, and have never been as aggravated by a situation as I am now with a player on this older team.
The girl is quite obviously the team bully. Most everyone is clearly intimidated by her. At practice, if she misses a ball she'll have a random player go get it for her. When throwing to any player, she fires the ball like she's throwing from outfield to home. She has thrown from a full windup, hitting a player not even facing her - much less expecting a throw. At a game last night, on warming up between innings she threw from 1st to the area behind the 3rd base dugout - to no one, but obviously trying for near misses. One time almost hitting me, once almost taking out the head coach, and again almost getting the opposing team's coach.
So far, I've been the only one to speak up about this. When she struck the other player, and told me that's just how she threw - I sat her out of practice. I explained to her that I would not tolerate anyone intentionally trying to hurt any of my players - her included. This episode just seemed to make her more smug, and definitely didn't make her calm things down for the next game. As I said, I'm assisting. I don't make the lineup or she'd be benched, or at best be in the outfield where she can put her arm to good use. (She typically starts 1st base)
If a ball is hit even remotely into her area, she gives everything to get to it. If it's thrown to her by another player, she won't stretch an arm to make the play - and she'll chew out whoever made less than a perfect throw. She constantly picks at and corrects everything done by all other players. You can tell a few others try to follow her and do this too - I guess trying to get higher into the pecking order.
We're a winning team, and she's a skillful player - but not the sole reason for our success by a long shot. We have several experienced, hard working players - along with a few first-timers. If this keeps up, I can't see how we'll get through the season without her injuring someone physically, or causing a player to give up ball because it's just not worth it. (Maybe even a coach)
Like I said - all coaches see and acknowledge that there is a problem, but I seem to be the only one who thinks something should be said or done. When the kid is not bullying, she can be bright, funny, and show real spirit - like in the dugout. I really don't want to see it escalate to a point where the school system takes notice and it would effect her opportunities in HS ball. But then again - the kid has already been kicked out of a local child care program - and is proud to tell anyone about it. I wonder if getting booted here would be another star in her crown.
It's pretty obvious that the head coach wants to avoid any conflict, and really doesn't want his kid to be the victim of retaliation - but I really don't want to explain to a parent about how their player got hurt, and know that I saw it coming and did nothing.
Sorry for the long post. This may be a very common situation that y'all may see each and every season - but for me, I've never faced a situation as blatant and felt as helpless to do anything about it.
Thanks for any tips or suggestions you can throw out.
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