I was so amazed when a teen would show up to spend the night and I never heard from the kid's parents. Geez.
I appreciate the input from all. I really don't think it's drugs, but I wonder about the depression. She has a distant relationship with her mother mostly because she disapproves of the choices her mother has made since we divorced. I try to encourage her to be more involved with her mother, but whenever we have a discussion on that issue it ends with her in tears saying that all her mother wants is a babysitter for her other kids. It breaks my heart. She has a good relationship with her step mother, but it just can't be the same. I wonder if this plays into this at all or if it's just a girl in love who doesn't want to do anything other than focus her attention on him. It's hard to know when they don't really talk to you.
Sorry you've been put in that situation, but she hasn't earned her privileges, so she has earned the other alternative instead.
Probably not going to be fun, but the choices she made directly dictate those you make.
Off topic but DD (8) does this all the time, crocodile tears included. Drives me and DW nuts but neither of us will crack on letting her out of it....It would've taken her approximately 8-10 minutes to complete them. Why was she still working on this assignment more than 2 hours later (included a 1-hour dinner break, which she wanted instead of knocking out the final problem)? You'll have to ask her. She could've been done in 10 minutes and had time to get in hitting practice. She cost herself that time, not me. ..