Probably should have done in person, but at least you know what the deal is and can move on. It sounds like you were out anyway and I'm sure he knew that so let it go. What you need to do now is make an honest assessment of your DD and see where to go next. TB can be so much fun or it can be a nightmare. Before you join a team do some research and see how they are.
Thanks CJ, we were out for sure and I do think he figured that out in the last week. While we joined mid-season, DD's best friend from our local rec team and school played on that team. They were and are still very satisfied and just as perplexed as we were with the twists and turns the season took. They have been in TB for years and have an older DD playing as well.
We are really vetting the teams we are trying out with and after seeing a lot of them play against us we have a much better idea where DD might fit. Tryout season is upon us - let the silly season begin!