It really depends on the level. Junior High and Freshman year tend to create numerous conflicts as girls want to play other sports for the social aspect as well as the sport. If you are expected to be an A level exposure team practice shouldn't be questioned unless they need to travel hours to get there. On an A level exposure team the above situation needs a serious conversation on priorities and commitment to the team. Everyone's goal on an exposure team is presumably to play in college so by not being committed you are holding others back. Your star players will leave in this situation unless something changes.
If you are a talented local B level team with a few A level players trying to make the jump to A level exposure than given what you laid out your team is in trouble and it will regress. You cannot win the battle of making those who want to play multiple sports committed to softball first. You will also lose the battle of trying to keep the softball first kids happy. This is decision time. If you sold everyone on exposure A level ball and you don't think it can happen because of lack of commitment then encourage the more committed players to seek out the appropriate team for their goals and change your schedule to accommodate for their absence.. If you sold them on B level ball then you might be able to hold it together if you don't push to hard on the commitment level, however in this case you should still expect the higher level players to eventually leave. No one is right or wrong in this situation they just want different things for their kids. This scenario plays out every year at 13 and 14U as families try to figure out the path for their kids to take. Softball can be tough as fall is traditionally recruiting season and that begins at 14U. As a coach encourage everyone to follow their heart, not to hold grudges and be happy for others success weather on the softball field, the classroom or the court. This situation just might not be a good fit for everyone.
Good luck.
