- Dec 11, 2010
I have not seen this happen. I’m sure there are examples of it but it didn’t happen with either of my daughters or any of the Juco-D1 players I have seen recruited.Any coach that thinks they can bully parents into thinking they don't matter won't last very long.
OP posted about first showcase. In most cases the coaches can’t even talk to players or parents at the first showcase they attend. Y’know, September 1 of junior year and all.Mom and Dad write the checks for that portion of school that isn't covered by scholly so the coach better be listening to what the parents say, and yes I mean early on, or like you say they won't get very far with kids and will end up with a roster of walk-ons.
The reason people are saying it seems like a one way process is because the coaches can’t talk to players or parents or respond to emails is due to NCAA rules.Yes brother, YES! If the coach doesn't want to talk to me then the coach won't be blessed with my DD attending thier school. This one way street stuff is BS. My DD ain't recruiting no coach, the coach is recruiting my DD. If my DD is not good enough to be recruited and has to do all of the recruiting then so be it, she'll be just fine in life without having played softball for some prima donna softball coach who thinks they don't have to do some crootin'.
If a coach is interested in your daughter, they will want to talk to you. They will want to win the entire family over, player and parents alike. You know you got the coaches recruiting face when dd says “Coach A is SO NICE!”The idea or belief that the coach is some unapproachable God is bullshit. If a coach was interested in my DD then he going to have to talk to me too. She is my DD. There is no magic birthday in which she is no longer my DD. I would much rather have my DD go to a school where I could say "people I trust my DD's life with" than A P5 school with a berating, tyrannical, old school jerk coach.
Again, parents and coaches who are familiar with the process will tell you there is a time and a place for that and it probably will not be the first showcase UNLESS the college coach CAN do it without violating NCAA rules. He or she will likely make that request through the players current head coach. Your hc will come over and say “Coach A wants to talk to you. I’ll introduce you.“ But the best place to have conversations is probably going to be camps and visits.
My advice, and the good advice by other posters was for some general guidelines for attending their first showcase. That advice is best delivered forcefully. Some people just don’t realize what is expected of them and they can get their daughter eliminated from consideration, and believe me if you get eliminated by one, the college coaches talk to each other and you the parent might get your dd wo is a great player and student blackballed. Remember most players go to college within a few hours from home and all of those coaches likely know each other well.
Guys (gals?), I also think that people think that getting recruited means showing up at an exposure and fight off all the coaches that are falling all over the awesomeness of your dd. It just doesn’t seem to happen that way much. Never say never but I’ve coached some really nice players who found good homes but it usually wasn’t a coach acting all gaga over the player.
Im just saying cast a wide net and have reasonable expectations. And don’t be a goof that gets your kid eliminated from consideration.
Good luck to all. It’s a heck of a ride.