- Jan 15, 2009
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I'm not going to defend the coach in the OP, but I will say that different players get motivated in different ways. IF the coach thought that this was the best way to motivate this particular player AND the coach was correct and the player improved then it's good coaching. If the coach was chewing on the kid to make the coach feel better about the player losing the game for the coach then the coach is a jerk.
One of my favorite coaching quotes is "Some players need a pat on the back and some need a kick in the @$$" Coaching is like acting. Sometimes you have to show a calm exterior when you ready to explode inside and sometimes you have to show more fire than your really feeling to try to kindle something in a player. If you yell at a kid because it feels good, your a bully. If you yell at a kid because you know you'll get a positive improvement from a kid, your a coach. Personally I gave up yelling at girls about 5 years ago because I didn't find it particularily effective or useful as a motivation and even if it felt good right away, I always felt terrible after. I have run accross girls in the last few years that yelling would have probably worked, but that's something I'm not willing to do anymore just to get a reaction and that's a limitation for me as a coach I can live with.
One of my favorite coaching quotes is "Some players need a pat on the back and some need a kick in the @$$" Coaching is like acting. Sometimes you have to show a calm exterior when you ready to explode inside and sometimes you have to show more fire than your really feeling to try to kindle something in a player. If you yell at a kid because it feels good, your a bully. If you yell at a kid because you know you'll get a positive improvement from a kid, your a coach. Personally I gave up yelling at girls about 5 years ago because I didn't find it particularily effective or useful as a motivation and even if it felt good right away, I always felt terrible after. I have run accross girls in the last few years that yelling would have probably worked, but that's something I'm not willing to do anymore just to get a reaction and that's a limitation for me as a coach I can live with.