Recently it has come to my attention that a member of this board has allgedly been attacking other members via private messages (PMs). Not only is that a pretty gutless tactic since the person being attacked doesn't have an opportunity to respond unless he/she is told about it, it is still a violation of the rules of this Forum.
Sure, it seems like a way to get around the Mods since we don't look at PMs. But speaking for myself, if I see our Forum being used for personal attacks by having such a message forwarded to me, I will deal with it in the same way I would if it was posted publicly.
What makes this particular incident even worse, in my eyes, is that the attacker didn't just go after the person he didn't like. He brought in that member's daughter as well. From what was reported to me, the attacker stated that the daughter wasn't very good, wouldn't make a "B level" high school team, and thus the person being attacked must not know what he's talking about.
That is uncool on many levels, not the least of which is bringing someone's family into it. For perspective, even the Mob and the FBI have rules about families, i.e. they are off limits. Does it make you feel important to put down a young girl to make your point? Young girls have enough self-image issues without being used to attack their fathers.
Beyond that, though, how does one's child's performance in any way add to or decrease the value of what the coach or instructor knows or teaches? There are a lot of factors that go into athletic excellence, and coaching is only one of them. For all we know, like many father/daughter relationships perhaps the daughter resists the teaching of her father. Perhaps she's not very athletic, and the coaching she's received, while not sending her to UCLA, has helped her overcome a lack of ability. Maybe she doesn't like practicing and doesn't put the effort into it. There could be lots of reasons someone's daughter (or son, for that matter) isn't a great player. Just like most great coaches were mediocre to sub-par players themselves.
Rather than working to undermine other people, here's a thought. State your case and let the quality of what you post speak for itself. If you're really as good as you think you are you won't need to put down other people with differing opinions. You will be instead be respected for your quality of character as well as your knowledge.
And again let me make it clear that use of ANY of the facilities of the Discuss Fastpitch Forum to attack another member will be dealt with swiftly, per the guidelines of the forum. If you're not sure of the rules of conduct, you can review them here.
For those engaged this behavior, let's grow up and start acting with class. In the end, you only hurt your own credibility by acting this way.
Sure, it seems like a way to get around the Mods since we don't look at PMs. But speaking for myself, if I see our Forum being used for personal attacks by having such a message forwarded to me, I will deal with it in the same way I would if it was posted publicly.
What makes this particular incident even worse, in my eyes, is that the attacker didn't just go after the person he didn't like. He brought in that member's daughter as well. From what was reported to me, the attacker stated that the daughter wasn't very good, wouldn't make a "B level" high school team, and thus the person being attacked must not know what he's talking about.
That is uncool on many levels, not the least of which is bringing someone's family into it. For perspective, even the Mob and the FBI have rules about families, i.e. they are off limits. Does it make you feel important to put down a young girl to make your point? Young girls have enough self-image issues without being used to attack their fathers.
Beyond that, though, how does one's child's performance in any way add to or decrease the value of what the coach or instructor knows or teaches? There are a lot of factors that go into athletic excellence, and coaching is only one of them. For all we know, like many father/daughter relationships perhaps the daughter resists the teaching of her father. Perhaps she's not very athletic, and the coaching she's received, while not sending her to UCLA, has helped her overcome a lack of ability. Maybe she doesn't like practicing and doesn't put the effort into it. There could be lots of reasons someone's daughter (or son, for that matter) isn't a great player. Just like most great coaches were mediocre to sub-par players themselves.
Rather than working to undermine other people, here's a thought. State your case and let the quality of what you post speak for itself. If you're really as good as you think you are you won't need to put down other people with differing opinions. You will be instead be respected for your quality of character as well as your knowledge.
And again let me make it clear that use of ANY of the facilities of the Discuss Fastpitch Forum to attack another member will be dealt with swiftly, per the guidelines of the forum. If you're not sure of the rules of conduct, you can review them here.
For those engaged this behavior, let's grow up and start acting with class. In the end, you only hurt your own credibility by acting this way.
