We had a kid on our 12U team who had never pitched. She took a few lessons that her dad won in a silent auction. She aged out and moved the following year. 5 years later she signed to be a D1 Pitcher.
Heartily second this. I am a bucket dad and I am no pitching coach, but I have invested a tremendous amount of time and energy over the last 4 years learning about pitching to help my daughter progress. I certainly have learned from many and occasionally seek professional help when I think we need it (e.g., troubleshooting, learning a new pitch), but I am her primary pitching coach for better or worse. Maybe she would be further along if I was spending $300-400/mo on pitching lessons (not something I could afford anyway), but she is progressing pretty well considering.Yup, same with school, scouts, or anything else. Gotta be involved as a parent. Can't just throw money at it and expect it to turn out ok.
Sounds like you got what you needed...simply tough love time. You have to put in the work and earn a spot, hopefully they are good position players otherwise.