I have learned that the best way for me to coach my kid is to shut my mouth and let her do the talking. If she continues to struggle, she will ask what she is doing wrong mechanically. Truth is, she has the same recurring issues, and already knows the answers. About all that happens when we rehash it is frustration and anger going both ways. After reading another thread in this forum, I have decided to keep my mouth shut UNLESS there is an issue with effort or attitude. Not surprisingly, since I have shut my big mouth, I haven't had any effort or attitude issues. We still have the mechanical issues, but I'm seeing a much more relaxed kid that is having fun. I think that is the best first step towards progress.