So maybe the coaches who rant and rave to the point of bringing college-age athletes to tears are grooming them for their future bosses when they enter the work force? Or maybe preparing them for an abusive spouse? What's the lesson?
The best lesson I learned in life was with an overbearing boss. He singled me out and made every attempt to break me. I learned over time to listen, but not respond emotionally to his "abuse". Always be kind in return, and figure out his requests, and do them.
Once an "abuser" figures out their tactics do not get the emotional response wanted, they end up making a fool out of themselves and the people around them figure it out and their ultimate authority wains.
Physical abuse is different. But verbal abuse is something almost entirely up to the respondent to overcome. Overcoming how to beat a verbal abuser (kill them with kindness) will get you farther in life than just about any life lesson.
Not sure how this applies to coaching. These days young folks do learn to tune out once the verbal tirades get out of hand. Ultimately, if all the players tune out the coach she loses authority and will see the door sooner rather than later.
Verbal abusers want to attack on the personal level. Once you figure out their tactics, refuse to take them personally, it becomes easy to overcome. In fact you turn the table on them and become amused as the verbal abuser continue to make a fool of themselves, lower their status in life, as your stock rises.
Physical abuse, financial abuse, is different. Verbal abuse, not so much. Takes a strong mind to overcome, but once done, the verbal abuser becomes a laughing stock.
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