Greenmonsters
Wannabe Duck Boat Owner
IIRC, Paul Simon wrote a song about this
Sadly, you're assuming that the information as you've presented it will be relayed in its entirety. It won't. It's an admirable effort and I've been there, too - but 3 years later, (and DD has been with the same org since) I still get approached by parents with misinformation about our departure from a 14u team that imploded. Meh. Think what you will. As Dr. Suess said, "Those who matter, don't mind. Those who mind, don't matter."The upside for me was that everyone on the team knew exactly why. I didn't want rumors going around, and people saying things that were not true.
When it comes to our children, we are emotional critters and we are convinced that if we just pay enough money, find the "right" club, keep our mouths shut (or open them more), they will see our kid as we do. They won't. And anyone that says different - that rare coach who does believe and see your child as you do - needs to stay in your life, regardless of clout or prestige or whatever. That's the real find, not the org. Our kids are multifaceted and will go on in this world to do a heck of a lot more things than just softball. A year or two from now, it won't be which org you ticked off or which coach was crazy, or which dad was banished to the parking lot with regularity. It's when your kid says, at college graduation, "Coach really believed in me back when I was 15 and life sucked. He kept me coming back. He pushed me," that are the moments that matter.
And *that* is what I pay for. If she isn't getting it, we look elsewhere - no explanation necessary. Club sports are, after all, the most important level of customer service.