Coach upset with DD for going to Homecoming

Commitment; to obligate one's self when it is convenient or nothing else is going on.

If there are several girls from different schools represented then all girls should get their homecoming off. That will equal several no play weekends. Pretty certain that at some point all kids have something they would rather do on any number of weekends. Spring dance, homecoming, Suzie's sleep over, ect. If all kids took these days off when they wanted it or thought something else would be more fun then you wouldn't ever have enough girls to play unless you carries a large roster. Can you have your cake and eat it too? Or do you sacrifice a little for the kids that have probably already sacrificed for you?

I think some of your wife's and/or husbands might be surprised at how you define "commitment". Yes, it is the same thing because it is the same word, "commitment".

Easton there are different dynamics... what if she is a Senior? This is her last HS Homecoming...

As far as the Tournament, aren't Showcases for the players?

iMlearning said:

Yes it is a showcase.

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Oh-thats an important one then. As a coach I would have said its a must attend when you asked 2 months ago.....

She also made a committment to go to home coming (probably with a date?) and informed the coach of this months ago. If the coach had a problem with it it, he should have addressed it months ago when he was informed, not now that she is committed to another event.

softballmom77 said:

My DD decided to stay home this weekend instead of going to Rising Stars in Florida.
I tried to tell her she had to miss the dance and go to softball but that didn't fly!
She stated all her reasons for wanting to go to the dance and I let her make the final choice.

In all fairness, the kid gives up all of her Summer so who am I to make her give up something so important as this.

I saved myself about $1000 in flights and hotel so I guess it's a win for my pocket book this weekend.

Coach was fine with the decision, it's not his first rodeo!!

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I really like the idea of saving the money No flight money needed though. I would personally love to see her play and offered to have her friends over etc... on another day but she said it's not the same. Many other girls have missed and he said fall is more relaxed...so he should relax on the issure.
BTW she just turned 15 and Is a sophomore, so I don't think it will ruin her chances to play in college if she decides to do so.

Is it different for females? I have never known a boy to miss a game, ever, for anything.

If she doesn't need her current coaches recommendation for college, then, there will be no penalty. But, if I was looking to play softball on a scholarship, personally I would play ball. But, I am very different than most. I played ball directly after my father's funeral and I missed something that my school had traditionally, the night before graduation. Forty years later, I remember the guy seated next to me scoffing, because I missed for softball. I said "What if you had a baseball game?" He shut up.

(We were typing at the same time.)

Will the team still be able to participate in the showcase? I assume playing in an out-of-state showcase means these girls are interested in playing in college. If the team can no longer participate, I can see how that might ruffle some feathers and raise issues of commitment, even if the social event was known about prior to the injuries.

If her not being there hurts the team, the coach did not take enough girls to make his team. A travel/showcase team needs more than the 12 girls that a 12U team takes. Girls miss travel tournaments for various reasons. Rarely do they take a full team on the road. As a coach, you need to plan for that.

Softball aside, IMO it is important to teach a child what commitment truly means. Some day those children will be adults and they will have to make some serious commitments that have severe consequences if those commitments aren't met. When it is ok to break one commitment, how do you pick and choose what commitment it is ok to break from then on? Seriously folks, I bet everyone that has a child on a team also has a teammate of your child that has sacrificed something fun or something they thought was important. To support her decision of breaking a commitment is equally wrong IMO.
I understand you told him in advance but you also left the task of running and managing a team to him. He can't bend for every player request. Think about it, if everyone took off for Homecoming you would possibly go 4 - 6 weeks without playing.

Easton33 said:

Think about it, if everyone took off for Homecoming you would possibly go 4 - 6 weeks without playing.

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Teams miss a player here and a player there all the time. The older they get the more they miss.

If needed, in fall ball, pick up a player or two for the weekend. It's routine this time of year and the games continue on w/o incident.