- Oct 25, 2009
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I think I understand the desire to crack down on that slack outfielder, someone more special wants an outfield position.
My daughter's mom was bitching at me, because our kid didn't start in the 1st game on Sunday. I told her it was HC's call. After Saturday's game, HC spoke privately with DD. When she came back over, Mom pressed her to reveal what they'd talked about. Not wanting to upset Mom, DD said that HC had told her she'd start the 1st game on Sunday.I see the problem now. You say:
Better player? In whose eyes? Yours and the other dad's? Your opinion about other players on the team does not count (nor should it). It makes no difference what "the other dad" thought about the situation, right or wrong, at least from a coaches perspective. If you were looking at this from a coaches perspective, you would see that it makes no difference who is is RF when your team is being outplayed by a better team. Your kid, his kid, another kid - they are all the same kid with respect to the outcome of the game! They will all make errors, mental and physical, and the big picture is it doesn't matter to anyone except the parents on the sidelines that need something to complain about.
You are looking at it from the perspective of a parent who wants as much playing time for your DD and finds fault for the coach not immediately punishing a player for a "bad play" that your or someone else's DD "wouldn't have made". You want "fairness". It's not fair - he is the one giving his time to coach the team, he gets to decide, not you or the other dad complaining that his DD is on the bench. I promise you that next year when you coach you will have just as many parents on the sideline complaining under their collective breaths why you are playing so-and-so ahead of their DD, just the same as you are complaining now. You can't please everyone, and you shouldn't try to.
We're seeking to build up our league. If the proposal for perpetual teams is approved this summer, that'll save all our coaches a great deal of time at the start of next season. Little-by-little, we think we'll see improvements in the strength of our league and in the overall quality of the program we're offering to the kids and their parents.
Fair call. Although no one wants to see their kid sick, it did teach her a valuable lesson. It's a mistake she's unlikely to ever make again.It's not your wife's fault for giving your daughter a shake, she's being mom. Your daughter is old enough to say no.
Don't let softball come between your marriage. Don't try to rationalize softball to your wife, she doesn't care, she's trying to be a good mom. Even at the highest level, softball is a game, don't get too wrapped up in it and learn to shrug off the small stuff. Focus on what you can change and what you have control over, and learn to let the rest happen as it may.
That's the reason I ask questions. I want to learn more about the rules of the game and also about the management of the game and its players. HC did not overreact in that situation and I probably would have. But, having read the opinions expressed here, I'm less likely to do so if and when a similar scenario presents itself down the road.If you are trying to build the league, I am not sure taking out a 10YOA right fielder is the correct approach. I have seen girls yanked mid inning. Just not at a local alphabet tournament. I saw a 12U girl pulled in a national tournament after an error. Coach talked to her, and put her back in next inning. I guess it really comes down to how the coach handles the error. I personally wouldn't pull a kid mid inning. Especially not at that age. If you are going to coach in a few years, you will learn how you handle situations as they come up. There really is no way of practicing for them. Just try and treat the girls with respect. After all, they are the reason we are all out here.
It's not her normal position, that is correct. But, every player knows to be moving somewhere on every play.Number 1: Did someone teach the rightfielder to back up first? Did someone remind her? Had she been not moving for several plays? That is on both the player--and the coach for not speaking up sooner!
You do have to teach and remind first before yanking a little kid.
Yes, it is a softball tradition even way up in ages not to yank anyone for anything except breaking the rules and debilitating fatigue, maybe 3 times in an inning making the same mental mistake or errors. I don't always agree with that, but whatever the issue is, we most often handle it by yanking after at least, the half-inning is done.