Welcome to the growing pains of a 1st yer travel softball team. There is usually a large jump from rec to TB. Even from rec all-stars to TB.
Everyone is is expecting too much from the girls and coaches. And the coach is right about needing to work. I would guess the majority of the girls on the team are playing other sports and have other activities during the week with SB coming in a distant 3rd or 4th. Also, the parents need to understand there is a bigger time commitment with TB. You can't have a team of "Practice Players" on the roster. Those are players who only work at team practices.
My only real expectation was DD playing with other girls who could catch and throw, and for the coaches to push her to and help her improve. neither really happened. we understood the time commitment (our girls have swam competitively for several years now, DD1 plays travel level FH) and work involved. our DD was probably the most involved with other sports (rec softball, guest practicing/playing on soccer team), but fastpitch comes second (after school) during spring, and we stuck to that (priorities were TB games, rec games, TB practice, rec practice, then everything else).