Back to the original topic. The head coach sets the standards for acceptable behavior on a team. In the situation posted the coaches behavior is allowing the team to feel that attendance and unexplained absences are acceptable. I guarantee you the players will follow his lead. In some upcoming practices a couple of players won't show. No explanation. A few more players won't show, some regularly and others sporadically. At a friendly you will be a couple of girls short. Then it will happen at a tournament. In several months the team will disband I know because I went through the exact same thing with DDs first travel team 3 years ago. Your choice is very simple: change teams.