I don't know about you but I am off enjoying my vacation from HS ball and I could care less what players are doing. And I don't want to coach 8-9 months out of the year for free. Or be an obsessed parent. It was a joy to watch my boys play ball and not give a crap except that their ability to be more as a team than the pieces impressed me more than statistics. If my player invites me to a TB game, same thing, but I do laugh a lot to myself. I'd rather write their recommendation letters and write about how they will be in life, not on the field.
I know one TB coach in particular is making baseball players out of my softball players with his cues (two hands, etc.), I think, but I am confident in my teaching, my assistants, and the players that we will get what the best out of our players every year. They are not statues or robots and have their own ideas.
Ultimately, they are only on my team for 2-3 years, most of them, and to get that invested in their entire lives (oh did I say 4 years of it while their still kids...) is silly. It all goes by and the minutiae will be forgotten.
So like many HS coaches you are there for the stipend check. Interesting.