same , it is only a gameClearly, you and I aren't going to agree on this topic. Good luck to you and your DD.
same , it is only a gameClearly, you and I aren't going to agree on this topic. Good luck to you and your DD.
same , it is only a game
remember, these are little girls (this was 12U team)
so what is the life lesson of staying . . . support your teammates I get it . . but at the same time I do not want to teach her to let herself be a doormat either. her only option (other than cussing HC and son out, or nailing them with a bat, both of which I frown upon) to let them know it was unacceptable way to treat her was to walk. she was used plain and simple, and I do not want her to let that happen to herself if avoidable. that is also a necessary life lesson.It's also about learning life lessons...like how to handle difficult situations.
because we have also taught her to respect the coaches and abide by their decisions / opinions. and she has had several really good coaches, so this reinforced this lesson from us, because she really respected them. and because these coaches earlier favoritism was less blatant (DW and I saw it, but not DD, and we did not say anything to her, again, we want her to respect her coaches), so she actually liked and respected these coaches as well (and they still were nice and pleasant, they just were not playing her, with no explanation). hence why she was in tears after that last game one day, she could not understand it emotionally, even if she knew it in her head. remember, these are little girls (this was 12U team)
It doesn't change much at any age. Let me preface this by saying I'm not in any way referring to your DD's ability, just showing you that tears happen in any age. Our 18 team had a great defensive 1B, but she lacked the ability to hit. We had another 1B that wasn't as good digging balls out of the dirt as the other 1B, but her bat was pretty good, and figuring that maybe 2 or 3 outs a Tournament we would give away vs good production on offense the line was clear. The first girl got playing time during Pool games (although limited) but rarely during Bracket games. 3rd from the final Tournament she was tearing up after Sunday's games after not playing much. Her father talked to the HC, then emailed Sunday night and informed us that she wouldn't be playing the final 3 Tournaments. I get it, but she had 50 AB's, and was hitting .135 and leading the team in K's. At some point the player must take responsibility for her own production.
In this case admitting what I did was a mistake was akin to admitting that I have a bald spot..obvious to everyone. The HC and ACs did get a good laugh at my expense though next time I saw them since, after clearer heads prevailed, some of the interaction was probably actually fairly comical to those watching (not my DD though ☹ )Takes a big man to admit their wrongs. I always try to put on a smile, fake or not, but trust me, many times I've tearing up inside wanting to explode. I just always have to put on my industrial strength filter when I go to my DD games.