and there can be plenty of good reasons for being unhappy to say the least at a big tournament, and I feel as long as you are not disrepectful, or disruptive, it is OK to make your feelings known. DD split time at C all year with another girl on the team (will not debate their relative merits here), prior to nationals we already know of at least 2 other girls leaving, both dads forming teams in other orgs, one invites DD to join his team already in aside to me at our last local tournament. other is making a 14u team (DD is staying in 12s), but said he would talk to 12u coach in org he is moving to.
(backstory, 12u C team, at beginning of season, talked to HC, told them DD was also playing rec, he said great, more reps, not a big deal if she misses practices for rec games. basically, this group of families, which include HC and two of his DGDs, that went undefeated in rec last year decided to do travel, and needed some other players to round out a team, so they got them. But they were never really part of the team. One dad even yelled at a AC acting as HC during very first tournament (HC was recovering from surgery, son could not be there), he should not be playing the "fill in" players as much as we was.)
team winds up doing well at nationals, runner up (remember, C ball, they have two really good pitchers, probably both could be in regular rotation on B teams, those were the only two pitchers to pitch at nationals). DD catches 3 games out of 11, plays one in left, pinch hit a few times, CR ran for other catcher once. Only reason she got as much time as she did is that Sun they played 5, needed to give other C breathers (she played 2 sunday). HC's son, sort of Associate HC, tells us that it was not fair to other girls who were always at practice, if DD got her normal playing time (50% behind plate, 25 % in OF is about what she played prior to Nationals). and other girls missed practices, probably not as many as DD, but other girls missed multiple practices. DD did miss a few for reasons other than rec games as well (and missed rec games for same type of reasons, school concert, school play, "class trip" to local MLB game, missed a one day tourney late that got announced to us last minute (ie week before because we had made other plans.
but no advance warning of her playing time being greatly reduced, probably because if we knew prior that was his plan, we would have not gone, and he knew it, and the team would have been toast with only one C. after Friday's last game (5 games total, one behind plate, one in left so far), all coaches but one AC (who we really like, and who was not on board with what was happening, is one of families leaving to form new team) and rest of team giddyup and leave pronto, DD is in tears. the one AC talks to her a bit, back at hotel we ask her what she wants to do, if she wants to leave we will support her. She decides to stay for her teammates, not certain I could have done that, proud of her.
now last game friday, and Sat (only one game), we are making no bones about it, we are not happy. not making a scene, but you can tell DW and I are not happy. Sat we go sit down right field line way away from everyone else. We had also made some comments during other games when he constantly CR for her with less than 2 outs (she is probably best, certainly top 3 or 4, baserunner on team, not blow your mind flat out speed, but quick, heady, and unlike 60% of girls on team, she will slide, and do it well, most of them laugh off how ackwarddly they slide when they bother to do so at all, and rest of team laughs with/at them). but since other C cannot run bases to save her life, well neither is going to be allowed to do s, might highlight other girsl deficencies. couple of games they Flex the other C because she is not good at plate, so next game DD is behind plate, has to flex, even though she is in top third/half of team in most hitting categories. we are not yelling, not causing a scene, nothing like that. even some of the other parents agree that what they are doing to her is not right. and most of the other parents knew at this point that we would not be back, HC's son even had told someone "we were leaving with X (AC leaving to form own team", when that was not case at all (actually, at nationals, we had no idea where DD was going to end up, just knew it was going to be somewhere else)
AHC/HC's son, and wife of HC, go ballistic on DW via facebook and text when we get home. say DD had encouraged other girls to leave (on drive home, she messaged a girl who saw even less playing time than she did that she should try out for X and Y teams, but season is over, and this girl got hosed worse than DD, DD was trying to encourage her and help her, season is over, no one owes anything to the "team", other than letting them know you will not be back once decision is made).
by the way, team went 3-0 with DD behind plate, not really indicative of anything, just saying
in one of those she threw out 3 BR stealing second. she went 2 for 8 for the week, 3 walks, 2 RBI, pretty middle of the road numbers for this team, but with the PA near the bottom of the team.
(backstory, 12u C team, at beginning of season, talked to HC, told them DD was also playing rec, he said great, more reps, not a big deal if she misses practices for rec games. basically, this group of families, which include HC and two of his DGDs, that went undefeated in rec last year decided to do travel, and needed some other players to round out a team, so they got them. But they were never really part of the team. One dad even yelled at a AC acting as HC during very first tournament (HC was recovering from surgery, son could not be there), he should not be playing the "fill in" players as much as we was.)
team winds up doing well at nationals, runner up (remember, C ball, they have two really good pitchers, probably both could be in regular rotation on B teams, those were the only two pitchers to pitch at nationals). DD catches 3 games out of 11, plays one in left, pinch hit a few times, CR ran for other catcher once. Only reason she got as much time as she did is that Sun they played 5, needed to give other C breathers (she played 2 sunday). HC's son, sort of Associate HC, tells us that it was not fair to other girls who were always at practice, if DD got her normal playing time (50% behind plate, 25 % in OF is about what she played prior to Nationals). and other girls missed practices, probably not as many as DD, but other girls missed multiple practices. DD did miss a few for reasons other than rec games as well (and missed rec games for same type of reasons, school concert, school play, "class trip" to local MLB game, missed a one day tourney late that got announced to us last minute (ie week before because we had made other plans.
but no advance warning of her playing time being greatly reduced, probably because if we knew prior that was his plan, we would have not gone, and he knew it, and the team would have been toast with only one C. after Friday's last game (5 games total, one behind plate, one in left so far), all coaches but one AC (who we really like, and who was not on board with what was happening, is one of families leaving to form new team) and rest of team giddyup and leave pronto, DD is in tears. the one AC talks to her a bit, back at hotel we ask her what she wants to do, if she wants to leave we will support her. She decides to stay for her teammates, not certain I could have done that, proud of her.
now last game friday, and Sat (only one game), we are making no bones about it, we are not happy. not making a scene, but you can tell DW and I are not happy. Sat we go sit down right field line way away from everyone else. We had also made some comments during other games when he constantly CR for her with less than 2 outs (she is probably best, certainly top 3 or 4, baserunner on team, not blow your mind flat out speed, but quick, heady, and unlike 60% of girls on team, she will slide, and do it well, most of them laugh off how ackwarddly they slide when they bother to do so at all, and rest of team laughs with/at them). but since other C cannot run bases to save her life, well neither is going to be allowed to do s, might highlight other girsl deficencies. couple of games they Flex the other C because she is not good at plate, so next game DD is behind plate, has to flex, even though she is in top third/half of team in most hitting categories. we are not yelling, not causing a scene, nothing like that. even some of the other parents agree that what they are doing to her is not right. and most of the other parents knew at this point that we would not be back, HC's son even had told someone "we were leaving with X (AC leaving to form own team", when that was not case at all (actually, at nationals, we had no idea where DD was going to end up, just knew it was going to be somewhere else)
AHC/HC's son, and wife of HC, go ballistic on DW via facebook and text when we get home. say DD had encouraged other girls to leave (on drive home, she messaged a girl who saw even less playing time than she did that she should try out for X and Y teams, but season is over, and this girl got hosed worse than DD, DD was trying to encourage her and help her, season is over, no one owes anything to the "team", other than letting them know you will not be back once decision is made).
by the way, team went 3-0 with DD behind plate, not really indicative of anything, just saying
in one of those she threw out 3 BR stealing second. she went 2 for 8 for the week, 3 walks, 2 RBI, pretty middle of the road numbers for this team, but with the PA near the bottom of the team.
