- May 25, 2011
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This is along the lines of an earlier post describing that a dad's DD had a target on her back from former LL parents from other teams.
This is what I am experiencing and I am not sure how to handle:
This is my DD's first year of fastpitch and her first year on a travel team. She is a second year 12U player on a mixed team of '98 and '99 players. She had previously only played in a slowpitch league for 3 years.
She leads the team or is second in most stats in batting. Definitely hits for power and has more extra bases hits than singles so far. You get the picture.
She is also very good fielder. She competed and earned the shortstop position, which she played consistently for the first 4 or 5 tournaments. She makes errors of course both batting and fielding, but she clearly has earned her spot and has worked hard to get good.
Starting with 2nd tournament of the season, parents were sending the coach venomous emails about my DD performance and were calling for her removal from the shortstop position. She had a .950 fielding [30 opportunities] at the time. I was copied on the emails as I was a loose assistant coach at the time.
Eventually, the parent drama bled over to the players and my DD. She knew that parents on our own team were hoping and secretly cheering for every error that she made. She knew that all eyes were on her. She knew that her own teammates parents were waiting for her to make even the slightest mistake. Every mistake created another set of emails to the coach.
My DD started to crumble under the pressure, making errors and being tentative so as to not make errors. The fun died.
The coach, last weekend, without a single word assigned her to LF with only a relief inning at short. In bracket play, she only played LF. My DD was very upset as she did not understand why she had lost her position after she had and continues to work her butt off. The coach told her that there was a lot of pressure from the parents to have another DD play at short. She asked how she could earn the position back and the coach did not have an answer.
She is frustrated and has asked me why she has worked her butt off at practices [at short] and now has lost her position to a girl that has missed the last 10 practices in a row.
Am I just whining...please let me know...or is this coahc sending the wrong message. I am torn as to how to proceed...
This is what I am experiencing and I am not sure how to handle:
This is my DD's first year of fastpitch and her first year on a travel team. She is a second year 12U player on a mixed team of '98 and '99 players. She had previously only played in a slowpitch league for 3 years.
She leads the team or is second in most stats in batting. Definitely hits for power and has more extra bases hits than singles so far. You get the picture.
She is also very good fielder. She competed and earned the shortstop position, which she played consistently for the first 4 or 5 tournaments. She makes errors of course both batting and fielding, but she clearly has earned her spot and has worked hard to get good.
Starting with 2nd tournament of the season, parents were sending the coach venomous emails about my DD performance and were calling for her removal from the shortstop position. She had a .950 fielding [30 opportunities] at the time. I was copied on the emails as I was a loose assistant coach at the time.
Eventually, the parent drama bled over to the players and my DD. She knew that parents on our own team were hoping and secretly cheering for every error that she made. She knew that all eyes were on her. She knew that her own teammates parents were waiting for her to make even the slightest mistake. Every mistake created another set of emails to the coach.
My DD started to crumble under the pressure, making errors and being tentative so as to not make errors. The fun died.
The coach, last weekend, without a single word assigned her to LF with only a relief inning at short. In bracket play, she only played LF. My DD was very upset as she did not understand why she had lost her position after she had and continues to work her butt off. The coach told her that there was a lot of pressure from the parents to have another DD play at short. She asked how she could earn the position back and the coach did not have an answer.
She is frustrated and has asked me why she has worked her butt off at practices [at short] and now has lost her position to a girl that has missed the last 10 practices in a row.
Am I just whining...please let me know...or is this coahc sending the wrong message. I am torn as to how to proceed...
