DD throws a flip and she has the same problem...Flip is about 20MPH slower than her FB...I think it's too much of a change. Even though she doesn't telegraph it...she can never seem to get the low called strike, and she can't get a decent hitter to pull the trigger....they GO for it, but have the ability to hold up. That's why I think it's too slow. When she tries to put a little more juice on it..she hangs it without exception. I tried to have her throw a circle or horseshoe change, but she telegraphs it, or throws it darn near as hard as her FB/drop. I decided to try a knuckle ball of sorts. I started her with one knuckle, now we're working on 2. She throws this one about 10mph off her FB/Drop and you can't see it coming. Needs some work on the location, and it still slips out of her hand quite often, so I have her constantly messing with the grip and how she "Grabs" the seams.
My DD doesn't have a problem with the speed differential it really locks girls up they cant pull the trigger on her change up most of the time but she throws it for strikes at a pretty high percent. One thing you cant do is throw it to mediocre hitters it just times them up lol.....our high school coach is learning this pretty fast. Also my DD's arm speed with her change up is equal to her fastball(which keeps the trajectory nice and flat) so that might be why it locks them up.