It was about that age when I changed my tune with my DD. I made it clear that it was up to her to decide how much work she should do to play the game at the level she wanted to play. I would be there to work with her whenever she wanted, but she was responsible for her own progress. Instead of "you need to...", I started saying "it would be a good idea to..." or "do you want to...?". It's then her decision on whether or not to do the work. When we are working together, I leave it up to her on how much work she wants to do (even if I think it should be more). There have been some ups and downs, and she's started to see that her performance fades when her work level drops off. There have also been periods when she lost her preferred spot in the batting order for her team, and had to work hard to get it back. It's okay to let them stumble and fall, and figure out how to recover.
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