My DD was an all-conference D1 pitcher. Another of my DD's won an NCAA D3 championship in hoops.
When my DD was about your DD's age, her pitching coach--a guy who developed at least a hundred D1 athletes and three Olympians, told me something. I will share with you the greatest advice he ever gave me about pitching and athletics:
"You have to decide if you want to be a softball coach or if you want your DD to be a great pitcher. You can't have both at the same time. If she is going to be great, you have to take all that time and energy you are putting into coaching the team and put it into your DD. You aren't superhuman. You've only got so many hours to spend on softball. So, you are dividing up your time between the team and your DD--and your DD is getting short changed. She has the talent. You've got to get your priorities straight."
I didn't like it, but I did what he suggested. What happened? I started focusing on my DD's performance as a pitcher. Instead of sitting around for two hours trying to line up umpires, I was sitting on a bucket for two hours catching.
What you should be doing is helping your DD become so good that she gets all the playing time. But, you can't, because (a) you have morals and (b) you don't have the time right now to work with her.
Because you are coaching your DD, she is guaranteed X innings. The trouble is, no matter what she does, she will always pitch X innings, even if she gets better or gets worse. Why? Because you don't want to play favorites. You want to be "fair".
So, hang up the whistle for a few years and spend it making your DD the best she can be. As for this year, it is too late for you to quit. Hand over the decision about pitching to your assistant and don't get involved.
When my DD was about your DD's age, her pitching coach--a guy who developed at least a hundred D1 athletes and three Olympians, told me something. I will share with you the greatest advice he ever gave me about pitching and athletics:
"You have to decide if you want to be a softball coach or if you want your DD to be a great pitcher. You can't have both at the same time. If she is going to be great, you have to take all that time and energy you are putting into coaching the team and put it into your DD. You aren't superhuman. You've only got so many hours to spend on softball. So, you are dividing up your time between the team and your DD--and your DD is getting short changed. She has the talent. You've got to get your priorities straight."
I didn't like it, but I did what he suggested. What happened? I started focusing on my DD's performance as a pitcher. Instead of sitting around for two hours trying to line up umpires, I was sitting on a bucket for two hours catching.
What you should be doing is helping your DD become so good that she gets all the playing time. But, you can't, because (a) you have morals and (b) you don't have the time right now to work with her.
Because you are coaching your DD, she is guaranteed X innings. The trouble is, no matter what she does, she will always pitch X innings, even if she gets better or gets worse. Why? Because you don't want to play favorites. You want to be "fair".
So, hang up the whistle for a few years and spend it making your DD the best she can be. As for this year, it is too late for you to quit. Hand over the decision about pitching to your assistant and don't get involved.
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