Miss a game? Well no I would not be ok with it and the consequences would be those I laid out at the beginning of the season. Still, I do encourage my players to play multiple sports and when those sports are in season, my stuff comes second. I had a child do multiple things and she went on to do ok in college. She played golf and softball for me. She played in a good area TB program.
You equate yourself to being a college coach. You are not. They are not in college. By the time that they are, they have made choices along the way. Some, like my dd, were able to do it all and get top academic honors. IMO, my dd benefited greatly from participating in sports where she was not the star. BTW, I've talked to more than a few college coaches along the way myself and are friends with many from the SEC to ... I've found out that many look for that athlete that can demonstrate the discipline to excel at multiple sports/activities. Of course your mileage can vary.
Cannonball , I agree , but I don't equate myself as a college coach. But I do view them as my peers in coaching. Being equals even though the pay may not be. I don't want to beat a dead horse. But if colleges want the girls to be dedicated at softball, its being a hypocrite IMO, to say we what girls that play multi-sports. And at the same time, I wouldn't take a girl that plays 3 out of 4 weekends a month either. There has to be a down time, so the body can recoup.